<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><feed xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom"><title>the break room</title><updated>2008-08-28T20:34:37Z</updated><id>http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/atom.aspx</id><link rel="self" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/atom.aspx" /><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com" /><generator uri="http://app.onlinequickblog.com/" version="2.0">Quick Blog</generator><entry><title>Break the Instant Gratification Addiction</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/08/11/break-the-instant-gratification-addiction.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-08-11:69b60d91-8546-4ea2-b90b-dbf2221535f7</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Motivational" /><category term="Professional Development" /><category term="Quality Of Life" /><category term="Strategic Planning" /><category term="Personal Development" /><category term="Leadership" /><category term="Success Strategies" /><updated>2008-08-12T11:34:20Z</updated><published>2008-08-11T18:35:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>We are a nation in need of an instant gratification detox.&nbsp; I’ve had my suspicions.&nbsp; I guess between live feeds from the Big Brother house, news streaming the growing number of drug-test failing Olympic athletes, and our obsession with anything having to do with the latest “I-gadget” the addiction was inevitable.&nbsp; But it was actually the recent <A href="http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/08/06/SPEH126IA0.DTL" target=_blank>Brett Favre debacle</A>&nbsp;that finally proved the validity of my hunch.</P>
<P><EM>Quick recap:&nbsp; Brett retires, waffles, confirms retirement, waffles again.&nbsp; The team moves on and focuses on launching a new era of Packer ball.&nbsp; Brett announces his un-retirement and is disgruntled this revelation isn’t met with the appropriate jubilance and reverence.&nbsp; Packers stick by their new man for the QB role and trade Brett.&nbsp; Packers fans lash out.</EM></P>
<P>As a business owner, I completely understand the Packers’ decision.&nbsp; It’s a shrewd strategy to find ways to build your bench strength, optimize your assets and give your organization a fresh vision for the future.&nbsp; It can be tough to bite the bullet and make a break from something that has always worked – especially when you recognize that there could be a few bumps along the way that observers will be happy to call you on the carpet for.&nbsp; But you do it because over the long haul, you know that is what will keep you great.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG><EM><FONT size=2>So why the long faces cheese heads?</FONT></EM></STRONG>&nbsp; <BR>Apparently Packers fans would rather commit to another rollercoaster season with Favre at the helm and not worry about what happens next.&nbsp; Because after all, a potential short-term shot at repeating greatness today is always better than working and waiting for potential greatness in the long-term, right?</P>
<P>All I can say is I feel for <A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aaron_Rodgers" target=_blank>Aaron Rodgers</A>– or any new CEO, COO or individual for that matter – who is brought in to lead some aspect of an organization and then given just one season to show they can make an impact.</P>
<P>I realize that in this information age everything we need to satisfy our whims, cravings and urges is available 24/7.&nbsp; But greatness just doesn’t work that way people.</P>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=2>Just how pervasive is our addiction?</FONT></STRONG><BR>Well, let’s play a little game of word association. What situations come to mind when you hear the following?</P>
<P>•&nbsp;Oil and gas<BR>•&nbsp;Mortgages and Housing<BR>•&nbsp;Airline industry<BR>•&nbsp;John Edwards<BR>•&nbsp;Childhood obesity rates<BR>•&nbsp;Immigration</P>
<P>Now, you tell me:&nbsp; How many of these situations could have been avoided by exercising some long-sightedness?</P>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=2>Meanwhile, our bridges are falling down.</FONT></STRONG><BR>As our addiction to instant gratification grows, our infrastructure is slowly eroding.&nbsp; Our roads, our school systems and our medical facilities are all showing the bruises of neglect from being moved to the back burner in order to make room in our budgets and on our agendas for more immediate (aka: popular) needs.</P>
<P>In our boardrooms forward-thinking CEOs looking to invest for the future of their company are put on the defensive by private equity firms looking to grow their portfolios quickly.&nbsp; And how many more quarters will we have to read Wall Street analysts’ reports questioning Google’s investments in expensive programs like employee training and benefits?</P>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=2>We are raising a generation of instant gratification addicts.</FONT></STRONG><BR>One of the main complaints I hear from Boomers about Gen Y (Boomers’ off-spring, mind you) is that Gen Y employees don’t want to do the time to move up the corporate ladder – that they are impatient.&nbsp; Ya’ think?&nbsp; Let’s take a closer look at their world.</P>
<P>In my day I was impressed with Jiffy Pop, Nestle Quick, Pop-tarts and microwave ovens.&nbsp; But just imagine never having to:</P>
<P>•&nbsp;Wait for a Polaroid to develop<BR>•&nbsp;Listen to the radio for hours to just hear your favorite new song<BR>•&nbsp;Go to the library to look something up in an encyclopedia<BR>•&nbsp;Dial a phone and get a busy signal<BR>•&nbsp;Physically go to an event to see it<BR>•&nbsp;Wonder where your friends are and what they are doing</P>
<P>I ordered a pair of shoes from <A href="http://www.zappos.com/" target=_blank>Zappos</A> the other day and they were at my door so fast I would swear the “submit order” button was attached to my doorbell.&nbsp; So yes, I can see how the instant gratification addiction can happen.</P>
<P>The problem is that at this rate we are ultimately building a nation of citizens to live self-centeredly and moment-to-moment, which will only magnify the current trends.&nbsp; Is that really the future we want to create?&nbsp; A future in which we hear the word “community” and picture an instantly constructed master-planned development complete with picket fences and front porches but no real neighbors, instead of a network of relationships grown and nurtured over time?</P>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=2>I challenge us to a better legacy.</FONT></STRONG><BR>Think for a moment about your most fond memories, your greatest achievements.&nbsp; Write them down on a sheet of paper.&nbsp; Now, how many of the items on your list were the result of instant gratification versus the result of real time and effort put towards reaching a goal?&nbsp; </P>
<P>You see, while instant gratification can seemingly satisfy our wants and needs, it doesn’t satisfy our souls.&nbsp; There is something to be said for enjoying the fruits of your labor, for savoring the process.&nbsp; Instant gratification takes the fun out of life.&nbsp; It’s like sex without foreplay.&nbsp; Don’t get me wrong, you’ll still enjoy it, just probably not as much as you could.</P>
<P>It’s time we stop cheating ourselves, our organizations, our country and our future.&nbsp; And the best way to start the process is not by pointing fingers and placing blame, but to start to make changes ourselves.&nbsp; What can you do?&nbsp; Start small and see what happens.&nbsp; Some ideas?</P>
<P>•&nbsp;Take time to authentically connect with people<BR>•&nbsp;Teach patience by example<BR>•&nbsp;Make sure your solutions address the long-term as well as the short-term<BR>•&nbsp;Don’t just manage perceptions, tackle the problem head on<BR>•&nbsp;Volunteer in your community <BR>•&nbsp;Participate in your organization’s CSR efforts<BR>•&nbsp;Disconnect from your technology when you are with friends and family<BR>•&nbsp;Participate in your community government</P>
<P>The trick is to balance out your activities so that at the end of the day you can sleep knowing you have invested some of your time and skills in creating a better future, rather than just responding to a future someone else has created for you.&nbsp; Someday your grandchildren may not know who Brett Favre is, but they will know who you are.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=2>So what’s the quick answer?</FONT></STRONG><BR>In short:&nbsp; Rome wasn’t built it a day.&nbsp; Some good things take time, and that’s not always a bad thing.</P>
<P>&nbsp;</P>]]></content><summary>We are a nation in need of an instant gratification detox.  I’ve had my suspicions.  I guess between live feeds from the Big Brother house, news streaming the growing number of drug-test failing Olympic athletes, and our obsession with anything having to do with the latest “I-gadget” the addiction was inevitable.  But it was actually the recent Brett Favre debacle that finally proved the validity of my hunch.
</summary></entry><entry><title>Make a case to maximize employee volunteer efforts</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/07/02/make-a-case-to-maximize-employee-volunteer-efforts.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-07-02:1b79f630-b424-417e-9ad4-4b98aff53d62</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="HR Strategy" /><category term="Corporate citizenship" /><category term="Employee Volunteerism" /><category term="Corporate Social Responsibility" /><updated>2008-07-02T16:38:54Z</updated><published>2008-07-02T16:14:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>Employee volunteer programs (aka employee volunteerism, corporate citizenship) have been getting a lot of attention lately.&nbsp; Changing consumer expectations,&nbsp;increased attention to corporate social responsibility, and the demands of a new generation of workers have left many employers looking for ways to satisfy this new contract.&nbsp; Employee volunteer programs are proving to be a popular solution because properly executed they provide good fodder for P.R, can be part of a larger CSR strategy, and have been positively linked to employee engagement and customer loyalty.</P>
<P>At last week’s SHRM conference in Chicago, I presented a session on <A href="http://www.shrm.org/hrnews_published/articles/CMS_026031.asp" target=_blank>“The Leadership Role of HR in Corporate Social Responsibility.”</A>&nbsp;There was a lot of buzz on the topic of employee volunteering and after the session a participant asked how to make the most of employee volunteer efforts at her company.&nbsp; I gave her my best answer, which was a good enough answer --&nbsp;but being unable to ignore my perfectionist tendencies,&nbsp;I’ve been wishing ever since then that I had a way to contact her to give her a more complete answer.&nbsp; So what follows is a synopsis of the question, what I said, and what more I could have said.&nbsp; (Given the time, a comfortable chair, and perhaps a hot cup of coffee...)</P>
<P><FONT size=2><STRONG><EM>Should employee volunteer programs be considered part of an overall CSR strategy?</EM></STRONG><BR></FONT>Comprehensive CSR strategies center on three business drivers:&nbsp; people, planet, and profits.&nbsp; For each business driver you can incorporate initiatives that have to do with your organization’s relationship with the workplace, the marketplace, the community, or the environment.</P>
<P>Employee volunteer programs fit in the people component, and can include:</P>
<P>•&nbsp;Workplace efforts like volunteering to support a company fund-raiser or workplace-sponsored event<BR>•&nbsp;Marketplace efforts like providing customer or vendor education<BR>•&nbsp;Community efforts like those we would consider traditional volunteer efforts that support a community cause <BR>•&nbsp;Environment efforts like planting trees or picking up litter&nbsp; </P>
<P>You might find that several efforts could fit multiple categories and that’s okay.&nbsp; It’s just a good starting point to take inventory of what volunteer programs you are supporting and where they fit.&nbsp; That will help you prioritize your initiatives and will help you in your future decision process when you are asked to support additional initiatives. </P>
<P><STRONG><EM><FONT size=2>Should employees be allowed to volunteer for whatever efforts they choose?</FONT></EM></STRONG><BR>There is no question that providing your employees the opportunity to volunteer for a worthy cause is a worthwhile investment. Plus you will logically get better participation if it happens to be a cause the employee feels passionate about.&nbsp; But as with any employee benefit program, or any investment of resources for that matter, it’s important to know what you’re getting for your money.&nbsp; And the only way to do that is to put some structure and measures around it.</P>
<P>If your company is already supporting employee volunteer efforts with paid time off, that is fantastic.&nbsp; It means your leadership already understands that volunteering benefits the employee, the effort, the community, and the company.&nbsp; </P>
<P>That being said, I certainly wouldn’t recommend providing paid time off for employees to volunteer for just anything.&nbsp; </P>
<P><EM>Why not?</EM>&nbsp; Well, for starters there are literally thousands of volunteer opportunities that your employees could participate in – efforts that cover a vast landscape of choices such as fundraising for political campaigns, working crowd control at a local St. Patrick’s Day parade, picking up litter on the side of the highways, serving on non-profit boards of directors, or providing community education in a local shelter.&nbsp; If there is an issue someone feels strongly about, there’s a good chance they can find a way to support it.</P>
<P><EM>Why is that a problem?</EM>&nbsp; Well, let’s say that you are a commercial development company.&nbsp; Would you be okay with paying your employee’s salary while they participate in a protest against developing a part of town where you are contracted to build?&nbsp; What if an employee wants to take off to sell trinkets at a crafts fare that is raising money for their church, which happens to be a sect of the “only people with brown hair and green eyes who were born under the sign of the Neptune moon crossing are worthy” church.</P>
<P>The point is if you have no parameters around employee volunteering, you are going to end up in hot water the first time you tell someone that roping out tailgating spots for the Jimmy Buffet concert doesn’t count as a worthy cause.</P>
<P>Not having parameters means you have to accept everything, or put your organization at risk when managers begin to make judgment calls on what should or should not count.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG><EM><FONT size=2>How should we determine which volunteer efforts to support?</FONT></EM></STRONG><BR>When your employees are volunteering in the community on company time they are the face of your company.&nbsp; So it’s important to consider what you want your company to represent.</P>
<P>Most organizations will look for causes that are consistent with their mission, vision, or values statements and make sense with the product or service they deliver.&nbsp; So for example, Sun Microsystems’ statement <A href="http://www.sun.com/aboutsun/comm_invest/dev/vol.jsp" target=_blank>“Innovation and action guide our efforts to eliminate the digital divide”</A> serves as their cornerstone in guide employee volunteer initiatives.&nbsp; </P>
<P><FONT size=2><STRONG><EM>What if&nbsp;I don’t have any mission, values, or vision statements to guide our efforts?<BR></EM></STRONG></FONT>Then look for something that supports your product.&nbsp; For example, if you are a publishing company, you could look for environmental opportunities to plant trees or develop sustainable inks, community opportunities on teaching English as a second language or supporting literacy programs.&nbsp; Look for a tie in to whatever you are selling or producing.</P>
<P>Another option is to put together an employee work group to look at options in the community and determine which ones they feel the company should focus their efforts on.&nbsp; This is a great way to gain some momentum and improve employee participation.</P>
<P>The Points of Light Institute has some worthwhile resources, including their <A href="http://www.pointsoflight.org/networks/business/" target=_blank>“Principles of Excellence”</A>&nbsp;guidelines for developing and sustaining volunteer programs.&nbsp; They also have very good benchmarking resources.</P>
<P><STRONG><EM><FONT size=2>How do I convince my leadership team that we need some parameters?</FONT></EM></STRONG><BR>One word:&nbsp; data.&nbsp; If your leadership team is hesitant to change the status quo, take a step back and gather data.&nbsp; Track the number of employee volunteer hours, the causes supported, and the types of work projects that were done.&nbsp; Put a dollar value on it.&nbsp; Compare your results to those of similar companies in your industry or community.</P>
<P>Numbers are the language of business and it’s been my experience that it’s tough to sell anything you can’t quantify.&nbsp; So start there.</P>
<P>If that isn’t enough, kick it up a notch with some qualitative data.&nbsp; Pull together some informal employee focus groups and find out which issues are top-of-mind for them.&nbsp; Listen to the pool of job candidates you are recruiting.&nbsp; Is there an overriding theme or question?&nbsp; Look at the results of your employee opinion or job satisfaction surveys.&nbsp; Is there any qualitative data there?</P>
<P>If your stakeholders ask the question “What do you stand for?” what are you going to tell them?&nbsp; And how are you going to show it? </P>
<P>Any volunteer efforts should ultimately contribute to and support an organization’s business goals.&nbsp; Typically you will get a bigger bang for your buck with focused efforts than with scattered ones.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Effective employee volunteer programs are a win-win-win for the employee, the community, and the organization.&nbsp; Good parameters will help you maintain maximum ROI so you can keep your programs alive and growing for years to come.&nbsp; (Hey!&nbsp; Let’s call that “volunteerism sustainability.”) I’d say it’s a worthy cause to strive for and another great way for Human Resource professionals to make a lasting, positive impact on the workplace.&nbsp; I look forward to your success stories.</P>
<P><BR>&nbsp;</P>]]></content><summary>Employee volunteer programs (aka employee volunteerism, corporate citizenship) have been getting a lot of attention lately.  Changing consumer expectations, increased attention to corporate social responsibility, and the demands of a new generation of workers have left many employers looking for ways to satisfy this new contract.  Employee volunteer programs are proving to be a popular solution because properly executed they provide good fodder for P.R, can be part of a larger CSR strategy, and have been positively linked to employee engagement and customer loyalty.
But should employees be allowed to volunteer for whatever efforts they choose?</summary></entry><entry><title>Can You Hear Me Now?</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/06/12/can-you-hear-me-now.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-06-12:395bc336-25a3-45d8-9142-2620c4d04224</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Quality Of Life" /><category term="Personal Development" /><category term="Listening Skills" /><updated>2008-06-12T15:32:25Z</updated><published>2008-06-12T15:17:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>Madonna released a new CD in April called “Hard Candy” on which she collaborates with other artists and puts out more great music to vacuum to.&nbsp; That’s not a bad thing.&nbsp; Maybe if my 43 year-old body looked as good as her 50 year-old one I’d still be groovin’ in the clubs, but I am just as happy having a good techno beat to dust to.&nbsp; Like her or not, you have to admit she knows how to create attention-grabbing headlines and keep things interesting. </P>
<P>Recently, in a USA Today interview promoting her album, (read <A href="http://www.usatoday.com/life/music/news/2008-04-24-madonna-qna_N.htm" target=_blank>“Madonna chews on work, love, ‘Hard Candy’”</A> here) Madonna responded to the question “As someone on the cutting edge of trends, do you think the best music gets heard?”&nbsp; </P>
<BLOCKQUOTE dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">
<P>“Not necessarily…Everything is about instant gratification and shorter shelf life.&nbsp; Someone who’s offering subtleties won’t make an impact.&nbsp; We live in a world full of distractions.”</P></BLOCKQUOTE>
<P>I couldn’t agree with her more, and yet the response – coming from her – troubled me a bit.&nbsp; Because isn’t she in part responsible for raising the noise level by contributing to it with her attention-grabbing antics?&nbsp; The ones that started way back in the 80s with the fishnet stockings and rosary bead ensembles, continuing with her controversial “Like a Virgin” tour performance, numerous erotic music videos, “Sex” book, and the 2003 MTV kiss with Britney Spears.&nbsp; Really, I could go on and on.&nbsp; There are quite literally hundreds of examples.</P>
<P>But she has a point.&nbsp; </P>
<P>The question “Can you hear me now?” in our technology-driven information age has a whole new meaning.&nbsp; Outside of being a brilliant marketing campaign for Verizon Wireless, it is coming to be a symbol of our inability to authentically communicate and connect with each other.&nbsp; Because being heard is about capturing someone’s attention long enough to get them to actually listen.&nbsp; To be heard.&nbsp; In this world “full of distractions” it is getting to be an art in its own right.</P>
<P><STRONG><EM>How far do we have to go to make an impact?</EM></STRONG></P>
<P>We have more venues than ever to make our point, and yet the solutions we are applying are as effective as the child tugging on his mother’s sleeve.&nbsp; “Mom.&nbsp; Mom.&nbsp; Mom….Mom…Mom..!”&nbsp;&nbsp; After a day of that is it any wonder we are all are ready to just check out?</P>
<P>Business owners struggle with finding new ways to make an impact every day.&nbsp; So their PR and marketing departments put together e-marketing campaigns and newsletters to barrage our inboxes and keep their products top of mind.&nbsp; They set up corporate blogs and MySpace pages, hold on-line contests and post YouTube videos all in an effort to engage their target market and stand out in the noise.&nbsp; But ultimately their efforts mostly just end up contributing to the noise.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Last week, I was speaking at a conference and noticed some people in my session busily trying to copy down notes from my slides.&nbsp; Wanting them to not feel unnecessary stress about missing anything I told them I would send them the presentation if they would give me their email address.&nbsp; You should have seen the panic flash in their eyes.&nbsp; “I don’t SPAM.”&nbsp; I had to say.&nbsp; <BR>&nbsp;<BR>Mom…Mom…Mom… It’s our email indicator, cell phone ring, text message alert, appointment reminder…. And those are just the electronic components.&nbsp; The ones that we could essentially turn off if we chose to.</P>
<P>So in a world where capturing someone’s attention is a significant accomplishment, whispering doesn’t cut it anymore.&nbsp; But at what point can we stop escalating the noise?&nbsp; Because it’s getting harder and harder to hear.</P>
<P><STRONG>CU L8R!</STRONG><BR>For us as individuals, the lack of meaningful interpersonal connections is not a healthy trend.&nbsp; To be heard is in my mind one of those basic human needs – right up there with safety, shelter, plumbing and chocolate.&nbsp; (My apologies to Maslow for adapting his hierarchy.)&nbsp; </P>
<P>To have someone stop and really listen, to look you in the eyes and acknowledge and validate your presence?&nbsp; Well, it is as vital to our life as breathing.&nbsp; And as much fun as it is that we are able to connect electronically whenever and wherever we choose, texting is still no substitute for a face-to-face conversation.</P>
<P>Consider these recent headlines.&nbsp; Is “Can you hear me now?” the real message being delivered?</P>
<P>•&nbsp;<A href="http://www.azcentral.com/news/articles/2008/04/21/20080421road-rage0421-ON.html" target=_blank>Tempe man with road rage shoots self</A>&nbsp;<BR>•&nbsp;<A href="http://www.charleston.net/news/2008/jun/05/police_teen_brings_gun_stall_high43499/" target=_blank>Teen brings gun to high school</A>&nbsp;<BR>•&nbsp;<A href="http://www.greatfallstribune.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080424/NEWS01/804240311/1002">City ambulance workers seek to form union</A>&nbsp;<BR>•&nbsp;<A href="http://www.pcworld.com/businesscenter/article/146632/shareholder_lawsuit_claims_yahoo_derailed_microsoft_bid.html" target=_blank>Shareholder lawsuit claims Yahoo derailed Microsoft bid</A>&nbsp;&nbsp; <BR><BR>I’m sure I could find countless other examples of something reaching an extreme point because we heard but neglected to listen to the early warning signs.&nbsp; (Oil crises, obesity trends, depression, insomnia and divorce rates to name a few)&nbsp; It doesn’t have to get to that point.</P>
<P><STRONG><EM>We are all so busy looking to be heard, there is no one left to listen.<BR></EM></STRONG>Authentic communication is a two-way street and sometimes the best way to be heard is to start by listening.</P>
<P>The Chinese character for the verb “to listen” is made up of four parts:&nbsp; ear, eyes, heart, and undivided attention.&nbsp; I think following that approach can help us reduce the distractions and avoid the extremes it takes now to get our attention.&nbsp; Like every good habit you’ll get better with practice.&nbsp; Make an effort to take some time each day to really listen to (in priority order)</P>
<P>•&nbsp;Your inner self <BR>•&nbsp;Your inner circle – family and close friends<BR>•&nbsp;Your work relationships – employees, peers, customers and vendors<BR>•&nbsp;Your community leaders</P>
<P>Not with the intention of correcting, or fixing, or helping.&nbsp; Not with a mind set towards judging or blaming.&nbsp; Just listen – with your ears, your eyes, and your heart.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </P>
<P>This focused listening is in a sense a way to reset the volume level on the noise in your life.&nbsp; It will help you tune in to what is important and what matters.&nbsp; It will help you notice the subtleties before they reach extremes.&nbsp; It will help you know the right thing to do.</P>
<P>Give someone the gift of your undivided attention every day.&nbsp; It’s the only way to make sure that the best music in your life…gets heard.</P>]]></content><summary>The question “Can you hear me now?” in our technology-driven information age has a whole new meaning.  Outside of being a brilliant marketing campaign for Verizon Wireless, it is coming to be a symbol of our inability to authentically communicate and connect with each other.  Because being heard is about capturing someone’s attention long enough to get them to actually listen.  To be heard.  In this world “full of distractions” it is getting to be an art in its own right.

</summary></entry><entry><title>Do the right thing</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/04/11/do-the-right-thing.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-04-11:764838d5-0ab0-4376-bc2b-bd9fa77f3d52</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Integrity" /><category term="CEO Pay" /><category term="Corporate Social Responsibility" /><updated>2008-04-11T16:06:08Z</updated><published>2008-04-11T15:46:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>Reading through the paper this morning it struck me that today more than ever we seem to have trouble doing the right thing – the right thing for our global community, our organizations, and ourselves.&nbsp; Is it because the choices have become more complex or because our decisions have become more visible?&nbsp; In sorting through the pros and cons of some hot issues from the headlines, you tell me – what’s the right thing to do?</P>
<P><STRONG>The right thing for our Global Community:&nbsp; Olympic sponsorship</STRONG></P>
<P>I completely get that Steven Spielberg opted out of participating in the production of the opening ceremonies for this year’s Olympics.&nbsp; I imagine him sitting in a room listening to people toss around their ideas for the best way to highlight and celebrate Chinese culture and thinking to himself:&nbsp; “<EM>Wait a minute.&nbsp; How can I participate in celebrating the culture of a country whose politics diametrically oppose my foundational beliefs?&nbsp; What was I thinking?&nbsp; I am so out of here!</EM>”&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </P>
<P>I also get that protestors are using the Olympic torch relay to bring attention to human rights issues in China.&nbsp; These groups have been trying to get our attention for a long time; these aren’t new issues.&nbsp; So good for them for optimizing a captive audience and making their point – peacefully.</P>
<P>What I don’t get is the question around whether or not Olympic sponsors should pull their support or risk permanent damage to their brands.&nbsp; In this morning’s USA Today an article on <A href="http://www.usatoday.com/money/advertising/2008-04-10-olympics-sponsors-china_N.htm" target=_blank>Olympic sponsorship</A>&nbsp;gave sponsors five different “professional” opinions as to the right decision.</P>
<P>How did supporting the Olympics suddenly become synonymous with supporting the host country?&nbsp; The Olympics have always represented an opportunity for harmonic international competition and should be about the athletes and excellence.&nbsp; Instead of pulling their support, I would suggest sponsors use this opportunity to entrench their Corporate Social Responsibility values and use their time and dollars to raise awareness of human rights and what can be accomplished by working together – as evidenced historically by the Olympic Games.</P>
<P>And if consumers really want to make a statement, wouldn’t they be better off boycotting Chinese products as opposed to US Olympic sponsors? </P>
<P>What is the right thing for these companies to do?&nbsp; What is the right thing for consumers to do?&nbsp; I don’t know…you tell me.</P>
<P><STRONG>The right thing for Organizations:&nbsp; CEO Pay</STRONG></P>
<P>The headline for this blurb on <A href="http://www.forbes.com/reuters/feeds/reuters/2008/04/10/2008-04-10T211917Z_01_N10337532_RTRIDST_0_EXXON-COMPENSATION-UPDATE-1.html" target=_blank>Exxon CEO’s compensation</A>&nbsp;for 2007 should have come with a warning:&nbsp; Reading this on the same day you fill up your gas tank could cause high blood pressure and uncontrollable cursing.</P>
<P>Now my degree is from a college of Arts and Sciences, not business, so pardon my ignorance, but can someone please explain to me how Exxon can bring in “the largest profit ever for a U.S company” while our gas prices continue to steadily creep towards the $4 a gallon mark?&nbsp; Can someone please explain to me how it is ok for an oil company CEO to receive $21.7 million in income while a good chunk of the economy is reeling from the impacts of the increased price of mobility, including 3 airlines closing down and another filing bankruptcy?&nbsp; How does this guy sleep at night knowing that these higher costs are being passed on to the end consumer in the form of baggage handling fees, fuel surcharges, and 100 other imaginative ways businesses have found to recoup money needed to just stay afloat.</P>
<P>And where is <A href="http://ethisphere.com/delta-ceo-refuses-10-million-bonus-feels-exec-pay-has-gotten-out-of-hand/" target=_blank>Gerald Grinstein</A>when you need him?<BR><BR>I would have hoped that more CEOs would have gotten the message.&nbsp; But what do you think?&nbsp; Should CEOs sacrifice their lucrative pay packages just because the rest of us are suffering?&nbsp; What is the right thing?&nbsp; I don’t know…you tell me.</P>
<P><STRONG>The right thing for an Individual:&nbsp; Green living</STRONG></P>
<P>A little closer to home, there are always those opportunities we all have to make a small dent in a big problem.&nbsp; I try to make a difference in small ways – I ride my bicycle to the store, I use my canvas grocery bags, I’ve replace a multitude of bulbs in my house with fluorescents and I use “certified green” cleaning products on the rare occasion that I actually clean my house.&nbsp; I’m not bragging; I am sure those are the easy and simple things we all do.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Two summers ago, however, I noticed that our AC system wasn’t working very well – which in Arizona is not something you want to mess around with.&nbsp; What a great opportunity to do something more significant!&nbsp; I did some research and found this amazing company&nbsp;<A href="/www.solcool.net" target=_blank>Solcool</A> that builds HVAC systems to run on a single solar panel.&nbsp; The thought of using the sun to cool my house thrilled me, so I tried to buy one.&nbsp; “Not possible.” I was told.&nbsp; Turns out there was such a demand the company couldn’t keep up production.&nbsp; “Wait another year.” I was told.&nbsp; So I dialed my thermostat to 87 degrees last Summer and waited.&nbsp; November rolled around and I again tried to purchase one.&nbsp; This time I was told by the supplier that I could only get it as part of a package deal that included 20 solar panels and putting my house on the grid.&nbsp; Fine, I said.&nbsp; Sign me up.&nbsp; I never heard anything back.&nbsp; <BR><BR>Next week the temperatures in Phoenix are expected to be in the low 90s.&nbsp; The prospect of spending another Summer in an 87 degree house was too much for me and I caved.&nbsp; I bought 2 of the highest efficiency HVAC systems on the market and had them installed this week.</P>
<P>I justified it to myself in a number of creative ways.&nbsp; What it boils down to though is that sometimes you want to do the right thing, but it is just too difficult.&nbsp; So the question is what is your breaking point?&nbsp; At what point does it become too much work to do the right thing?</P>
<P>Should I have tried harder?&nbsp; I don’t know… you tell me.</P>
<P><STRONG>Choices and Consequences</STRONG></P>
<P>Cleaning out boxes in my garage this past weekend I had a chance to root through some of my history.&nbsp; It’s interesting to review evidence of the choices you made in your life that landed you where you are today.&nbsp; Even though I love where I am today, I can promise you that I didn’t always do the right thing.&nbsp; I claim it’s what makes me interesting, tolerant, and flexible, but I am sure my parents would have a different spin.</P>
<P><STRONG><EM>You see, that’s the trouble with doing the right thing – there is no formula for consciousness where you can simply plug in data and have it spit out the correct answer.&nbsp; </EM></STRONG></P>
<P>At some point we all are faced with making a decision that requires us to balance our intellect, our pocketbooks, and our hearts.&nbsp;&nbsp; Come to think of it though, if more of us actually took that balanced approach I imagine that more of us would have no choice but to do the right thing – whatever that right thing turns out to be for our particular unique situation at a given moment in time.</P>
<P>I guess my question is this:&nbsp; Have our lives really progressed to point where it&nbsp;is really that hard to do the right thing?&nbsp;&nbsp;Is it that we don't have the time, the energy, the desire?&nbsp; Or is it the&nbsp;belief that one person doing the right thing can't make&nbsp;a difference?&nbsp; I don’t know… you tell me.</P>
<P>&nbsp;</P>]]></content><summary>Reading through the paper this morning it struck me that today more than ever we seem to have trouble doing the right thing – the right thing for our global community, our organizations, and ourselves.  Is it because the choices have become more complex or because our decisions have become more visible?  In sorting through the pros and cons of some hot issues from the headlines, you tell me – what’s the right thing to do?
</summary></entry><entry><title>Peaks and Valleys</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/03/27/peaks-and-valleys.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-03-27:97baa125-d33e-4791-a2a3-ef6dbd4a3b78</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Motivational" /><category term="Quality Of Life" /><category term="Success Strategies" /><category term="Personal Development" /><updated>2008-03-27T16:57:54Z</updated><published>2008-03-27T14:03:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P>I’ve been on the road this week, stretching a one-day business meeting in San Francisco into a grown-up version of Spring Break, starting with a long overdue visit to Napa Valley.</P>
<P>Driving into Napa there is a turn-off point where Highways 12 and 29 converge, and the road veers ever so slightly that if your eyes were closed, you wouldn’t even notice your body shifting in response.&nbsp; So it’s always a welcome surprise to suddenly see the Valley laid out in front of you, like peering into one of those&nbsp;<A href="http://www.sugareggs.com/files/QuickSiteImages/Lg-AntonioInside.jpg" target=_blank>sugar Easter eggs</A> we got as kids – where you look into the icing-laced opening and discover a whole different and beautiful world.&nbsp; I always wanted to crawl inside those eggs when I was little, and every time I turn that curve to Napa, I feel like I am doing just that.</P>
<P>This visit it hit me that I have a thing for valleys.&nbsp; I started recounting my favorite places to visit:&nbsp; Napa Valley in California, Mission Valley in Montana, Loire Valley in France… Heck, I have even made my home in the Valley of the Sun!&nbsp; Valleys are always the places that seem to bring me the strongest sense of connection and renewal and peace.</P>
<P><STRONG><EM>So why is it then, that when we speak of our lives in terms of peaks and valleys, valleys get such a bad rap?</EM></STRONG></P>
<P>Yes, I’ll give you that just like we refer to the low times in our lives, geographically speaking valleys are depressions in the earth.&nbsp; But technically, there is so much more to it than that, because they are also abundant and rich sources of life.</P>
<P><STRONG>So I think it is high time we changed our perspective.&nbsp; How?&nbsp; Start with gratitude.</STRONG></P>
<P>Now don’t worry, I don’t mean this in the guilt-inspiring Catholic “be thankful for what you have because plenty others have it worse” kind of way.&nbsp; Like when I was distraught that I didn’t make the cheerleading squad my sophomore year of high school and my mom consoled me with a comforting “Well, you should be thankful you have your arms and legs!” Thanks mom.&nbsp; I didn’t realize that was the trade-off.</P>
<P>What I do mean is that changing one’s perspective through gratitude starts with an objective appreciation for whatever has transpired to bring you to where you are today – something more along the lines of Garth Brooks’ “<A href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-2156161706585783232" target=_blank>Unanswered Prayers</A>.”&nbsp; Let me give you another example.</P>
<P><STRONG>Valleys&nbsp;provide transitions&nbsp;in the cycle of life<BR></STRONG>When I was younger, I used to mourn the end of every friendship and relationship.&nbsp; I would think about the gaping void that would be left in my life by that person’s absence, and I would reflect on how things could have perhaps been different and whether or not I could have or should have done more to hang on.&nbsp; I never could decide if it was better to be the one leaving, or the one being left, because either way life went on with that noticeable void.</P>
<P>One day when I was wallowing in one of these voids, a friend mentioned to me that “People are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a life-time.”&nbsp; And from that moment on, I have been able to look at these transitions in a different light.&nbsp; So rather than mourning the loss of future possibilities, I appreciate the reasons, celebrate the seasons, and cherish the life-times.&nbsp; It is a much happier way to live, observing the transitions of people in and out of your life rather than trying to keep them all close like a massing of collectibles gathering dust on a shelf.</P>
<P>In the same sense, the valleys in our lives serve a unique transitional purpose.&nbsp; Everything in nature shows us that cycles are a requisite part of living:&nbsp; the ebb and flow of the ocean tides, the four Seasons, darkness and light… the pause for renewal is part of a continuum that has sustained life for centuries.&nbsp; I don’t want to bore you with too many analogies, but while I’m here I would be remiss to not also point out the benefits of valleys:&nbsp; the protection from extreme weather, the abundant life provided by the rivers and streams that cut through them…you get the picture.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG>Valleys provide the environment for growth<BR></STRONG>Somewhere along the way we have bought into the concept that progress is solely equivalent to climbing and conquering the next big peak, to continually moving upward and onward.&nbsp; And by holding on to that limited definition of progress, we are cheating ourselves out of valuable transition times.&nbsp; Sometimes our greatest growth comes out of silence.&nbsp; Sometimes our most moving moments are experienced in stillness.&nbsp; And if you don’t allow yourself to stop and appreciate those moments, you are cheating yourself out of a vital element of life.</P>
<P>What it ultimately comes down to for me is that I am a big believer in the idea that on our life paths we are given opportunities to course-correct, to redefine our purpose and passions, and to reignite our enthusiasm for just being.&nbsp; And it has been my experience that it’s precisely in those times we find ourselves placed in the protective environment of one of life’s valleys.</P>
<P>So the next time you are between peaks, take some time to notice the people, situations, and things surrounding you that you can be grateful for during your transition, and build on those.&nbsp; Rather than kicking yourself for ending up in a valley, throw down a few seeds and kick around some dirt instead.&nbsp; You might be surprised at the growth that comes out of it.&nbsp; </P>
<P>And if by some chance you find yourself in Napa Valley, well…pick me up a bottle of Pinot while you’re there.</P>
<P>&nbsp;</P>]]></content><summary>I’ve been on the road this week, stretching a one-day business meeting in San Francisco into a grown-up version of Spring Break, starting with a long overdue visit to Napa Valley.

Driving into Napa there is a turn-off point where Highways 12 and 29 converge, and the road veers ever so slightly that if your eyes were closed, you wouldn’t even notice your body shifting in response.  So it’s always a welcome surprise to suddenly see the Valley laid out in front of you, like peering into one of those sugar Easter eggs we got as kids – where you look into the icing-laced opening and discover a whole different and beautiful world.  I always wanted to crawl inside those eggs when I was little, and every time I turn that curve to Napa, I feel like I am doing just that.

This visit it hit me that I have a thing for valleys.  I started recounting my favorite places to visit:  Napa Valley in California, Mission Valley in Montana, Loire Valley in France… Heck, I have even made my home in the Valley of the Sun!  Valleys are always the places that seem to bring me the strongest sense of connection and renewal and peace.

So why is it then, that when we speak of our lives in terms of peaks and valleys, valleys get such a bad rap?

</summary></entry><entry><title>If This Blog Post Isn't Perfect, I Guarantee I'll Write You Another...</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/03/11/if-this-blog-post-isnt-perfect-i-guarantee-ill-write-you-another.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-03-11:d00ac610-cec5-493d-9170-7de062fbcafd</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Personal Development" /><category term="Professional Development" /><category term="Perfectionism" /><category term="Organizational Development" /><updated>2008-03-17T16:03:59Z</updated><published>2008-03-11T11:15:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P>Enjoying a nice walk along the Arizona Canal the other day to soak in our perfect March weather, I noticed an unusually tall 70-something-old man approaching.&nbsp; He was dressed a bit like <A href="http://i.imdb.com/Photos/Mptv/1063/3449-0032.jpg" target=_blank>Gilligan</A>&nbsp;and looked nice enough.&nbsp;&nbsp;(Now that I think of it, can anyone really look threatening wearing a skipper’s hat?)&nbsp; Either way… “Good morning!” I greeted him with that level of enthusiasm you can so easily muster on the perfect day.&nbsp; “Actually,” he sneered back at me “it is afternoon.”&nbsp; My first thought was that perhaps I had been strolling a little slower than usual, so I dialed my I-Pod to its clock: 11:04.&nbsp; My next thought was “<EM>Seriously?&nbsp; A stranger gives you a heartfelt hello, and your best response is to correct them?”&nbsp;</EM> And an incorrect correction at that, mind you. </P>
<P>We are a Nation obsessed with perfection.&nbsp; Starbucks is even building their current marketing campaign around it (and was the inspiration for my title!)&nbsp;&nbsp; Right and wrong, correct and incorrect – just think about all of the words and phrases we have at our disposal to describe all the ways that something or someone isn’t quite up to par.&nbsp; We look for the perfect job, the perfect spouse, the perfect schools, the perfect house… Judging shows like “American Idol” and “Dancing with the Stars” top the ratings and feed our need to critique.&nbsp; <BR><STRONG><EM><BR>But in our search for perfection, we are ignoring a conundrum of sorts.&nbsp; Because isn’t the truth that by its very nature, perfectionism itself is a flaw?</EM></STRONG></P>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=3>Perfect order</FONT><BR></STRONG>Let me first get a confession out of the way:&nbsp; I myself am a recovering perfectionist.&nbsp; It certainly wasn’t something I strived for; it is just how I was wired at birth.&nbsp; If you give her a chance, my mom will talk to you for hours about some of the perfectionism quirks I displayed growing up:&nbsp; Not speaking until I was almost 3 years old, and then starting in perfectly formed full sentences, for example.&nbsp; I was the only child on the block that was known for quietly sneaking about in the middle of the night just to pick up&nbsp;my bedroom.&nbsp;&nbsp;To this day, I can’t go to sleep knowing there are dirty dishes in the sink and newspapers strewn on the floor, but I am getting better.&nbsp; Of course, if you are too obsessed with perfect order, you are labeled obsessive-compulsive, so there’s that.</P>
<P>The point is that we find comfort in order.&nbsp; Life is messy and unpredictable and being able to put some structure to the things we can control can help us plot our way through.</P>
<P>At work we use agendas to schedule our time, walls to define our work space, files to organize our papers.&nbsp; We label people and put them in boxes and then fill out standardized forms to show them how to move to the next box.&nbsp; Training classes follow a proven instructional design process, Six Sigma evaluates organizational processes to identify and eliminate waste.&nbsp; Our need for order shows up everywhere.&nbsp; There is even a correct order for working through change.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG><EM>“Chaos often breeds life, when order breeds habit."</EM></STRONG> - Henry Brooks Adams</P>
<P>There is something to be said for learning how to live life a little less structured and orderly.&nbsp; Any business book you pick up these days talks about how organizations need to build nimble structures and cultures that foster creativity in order to survive in the global economy, and attract the new generation of workers.&nbsp; It starts with a basic understanding that even in chaos there is order underlying the seemingly random events and ideas.<BR><BR>Learn how to live with chaos:</P>
<BLOCKQUOTE dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">
<P dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">•&nbsp;Read “<A href="http://www.amazon.com/Thriving-Chaos-Handbook-Management-Revolution/dp/0060971843/" target=_blank>Thriving on Chaos: Handbook for a Management Revolution</A>” by Tom Peters<BR>•&nbsp;Identify where too much structure might be impeding your success<BR>•&nbsp;Allow your logical order to leave some room for surprises.</P></BLOCKQUOTE>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=3>Perfect solutions</FONT></STRONG><BR>The last time I was visiting Baton Rouge, I made a comment while we were stuck sitting still at a green light about how the traffic would move a little better if the lights on this one road were synchronized more effectively.&nbsp; “Michelle, you can’t fix the world” was my mom’s reply.</P>
<P>She’s right, and at the risk of disappointing Oprah, it’s not like I have aspirations to.&nbsp; But I would like a few corners of it to move along a little better.&nbsp; Sometimes simple solutions are so painfully obvious you wonder why nobody has done anything about them.&nbsp; Then you go to work and sit in a committee meeting tasked with finding ways to help the front-line employees greet your customers with more authentic enthusiasm and for every one idea there are ten people who point out all the reasons something won’t work rather than helping find all the ways it can.&nbsp; Oh yeah, now I remember.&nbsp; That’s why we’re sitting still at a green light.</P>
<P>Perfectionism can absolutely stall progress.&nbsp; Sometimes it’s best to just pull anchor, point your ship in the right direction, and course correct along the way.&nbsp; I mean, really, how many times has something played out exactly like you planned it, from start to finish?&nbsp; So why do we put that unrealistic pressure on ourselves and others?&nbsp; </P>
<P>I have seen organizations invest hundreds of thousands of dollars in determining the perfect solution for their high-priority issues, only to have the solution waylaid in the implementation stage when a bigger, higher-priority item comes along that requires the same resources to identify the perfect solution.&nbsp; <BR><BR>Save yourself the time and money and try an approach that emphasizes progress, not perfection:</P>
<BLOCKQUOTE dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">
<P>•&nbsp;Be crystal clear on the mission, objectives and desired outcome<BR>•&nbsp;Set a framework for ongoing communication, key milestones and touch-points<BR>•&nbsp;Measure and evaluate progress continually and course correct as needed</P></BLOCKQUOTE>
<P><STRONG><FONT size=3>Perfect people<BR></FONT></STRONG>I first became aware of the concept that there are perfect people with Blake Edwards’ movie “10.”&nbsp; While I wasn’t old enough to actually watch “10” when it first came out, the&nbsp;<A href="http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-549559943816060759&amp;q=bo+derek+10&amp;total=43&amp;start=0&amp;num=10&amp;so=0&amp;type=search&amp;plindex=0" target=_blank>trailer</A> told enough of the story for me to get the gist.&nbsp;<BR>&nbsp;<BR>At the time, it was hard to turn on the TV and not see the clip of Bo Derek running in slow motion along the beach.&nbsp; I still can’t resist doing my best impersonation of that scene anytime I find myself jogging on a beach --which thankfully for innocent bystanders, isn’t all too often.&nbsp;&nbsp; As an impressionable teen, what stuck with me from the commotion the film created was the notion that to be worthy of love, one had to be perfect.&nbsp; </P>
<P>So I tried that for about a decade.&nbsp; I set out to be the perfect student, the perfect child, the perfect friend, the perfect 10… The problem I found out with this approach is that everyone has a different definition of what perfect looks like, and a lot of those ideas conflict.&nbsp; I just ended up confused.&nbsp; And exhausted.</P>
<P>What I grew to recognize is what I love most about the people in my life are their odd mannerisms, their outlandish senses of humor, and their unique perspectives.&nbsp; And thankfully, that’s what they love about me.&nbsp; I think that intuitively we all recognize this need to be our most true selves and long to leave a bright red mark differentiating our existence on the otherwise ordinarily beige landscape of everyday life.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </P>
<P>We have a little more difficulty replicating this at work.&nbsp; For example, we recruit and promote candidates we feel best mirror our organization’s existing structure and ideas rather than asking “Do we have a culture that will allow people with different thoughts, ideas, and approaches to succeed?”&nbsp; Studies show that we like people we view as similar to ourselves.&nbsp; But will 100 more of you really build the thriving organization you envision?&nbsp;&nbsp; </P>
<P dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">Perfect people are the people who bring out the best in others by just being themselves.&nbsp; They are the ones who challenge us to be better, by their actions as well as their work and words.&nbsp; <BR><BR>Redefine “perfect” for your organization and learn to:<BR></P>
<BLOCKQUOTE dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">
<P>•&nbsp;Celebrate differences<BR>•&nbsp;Seek out a wide variety of ideas and opinions outside your normal circles<BR>•&nbsp;Allow room for imperfections </P></BLOCKQUOTE>
<P><FONT size=3><STRONG>Perfect mess</STRONG></FONT><BR>Like a staged model home, when things are too perfect, they somehow lose their soul.&nbsp; Life is messy and perfection, even if you achieve it, is fleeting.&nbsp; The bumps in the road are what keep life interesting and what makes us human.</P>
<P>The answer to the conundrum in our search for perfection is that perfection itself is an illusion; and it’s not until we learn to embrace the imperfections that our life will begin to unfold – perfectly flawed and gloriously unpredictable, as it should be.<BR><BR><A href="http://www.blogcatalog.com/directory/personal/development_and_growth" target=_blank>blog catalog</A><BR><BR></P>]]></content><summary>Enjoying a nice walk along the Arizona Canal the other day to soak in our perfect March weather, I noticed an unusually tall 70-something-old man approaching.  He was dressed a bit like Gilligan and looked nice enough.  (Now that I think of it, can anyone really look threatening wearing a skipper’s hat?)  Either way… “Good morning!” I greeted him with that level of enthusiasm you can so easily muster on the perfect day.  “Actually,” he sneered back at me “it is afternoon.”  My first thought was that perhaps I had been strolling a little slower than usual, so I dialed my I-Pod to its clock: 11:04.  My next thought was “Seriously?  A stranger gives you a heartfelt hello, and your best response is to correct them?”  And an incorrect correction at that, mind you. 

We are a Nation obsessed with perfection.  Starbucks is even building their current marketing campaign around it.   Right and wrong, correct and incorrect – just think about all of the words and phrases we have at our disposal to describe all the ways that something or someone isn’t quite up to par.  We look for the perfect job, the perfect spouse, the perfect schools, the perfect house… Judging shows like “American Idol” and “Dancing with the Stars” top the ratings and feed our need to critique.  

But in our search for perfection, we are ignoring a conundrum of sorts.  Because isn’t the truth that by its very nature, perfectionism itself is a flaw?

</summary></entry><entry><title>Dealing With Betrayal on the Job</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/02/15/dealing-with-betrayal-on-the-job.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-02-15:ad68136e-fbe5-413e-866d-29fb81cb64f9</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Work Relationships" /><category term="Betrayal" /><category term="Human Resources" /><category term="job satisfaction" /><category term="Personal Development" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:06:22Z</updated><published>2008-02-15T12:11:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>I spent Wednesday morning glued to the television watching the McNamee &amp; Clemens hearing on Capitol Hill.&nbsp; It was a classic case of “he said – he said.”&nbsp;&nbsp;Listening to&nbsp;these former co-workers and friends adamantly defend their honor against the other’s accusations, the partisan questioning from the committee members, and the inevitable dragging in of family, friends and the institution of baseball, well… it left my stomach so knotted it felt like I&nbsp;had swallowed a brass porcupine.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; To top it off, Thursday morning’s newspaper recaps kicked off my day with a heavy heart.&nbsp; What a gloomy way to start Valentine’s Day!</P>
<P>Now I have been accused of “wearing my heart on my sleeve” on more than one occasion, mind you.&nbsp; I attribute&nbsp;this to my ability to empathize to a greater degree than most people.&nbsp; It is what makes me gifted&nbsp;at improving organizational dynamics and teaching, and what makes me uneasy with employee investigations and office politics.</P>
<P>But other than mourning the state of professional baseball, what on earth would allow me to empathize in this scenario?&nbsp; It’s not like I have ever been called before a congressional committee, played professional athletics, or even had a personal trainer for that matter.&nbsp; Replaying the hearing debacle in my head, I tried to figure out why it had such an impact on me.</P>
<P><STRONG><EM>I realized that the familiar sensation I was feeling in my gut was the pain associated with betrayal.</EM></STRONG>&nbsp;&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG>A betrayal is a violation of trust </STRONG><BR>Typically, when you think of a betrayal you picture a broken personal partnership like an extramarital affair or an accountant who leaves the country with all of their clients’ life savings – the severe drama that makes for great cinema.&nbsp; But I would venture to guess that there are very few people who haven’t encountered an on-the-job&nbsp;betrayal at some&nbsp;point or another in their professional careers.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Some corporate cultures are hot beds for fostering betrayals.&nbsp; They thrive on gossip, unhealthy internal competition, subjective decisions, and a scarcity mentality.&nbsp; It’s the “dog eat dog” and “sink or swim” mindset that activates the ego and results in brownnosing and relational maneuvering to clamor up (or hang on to your rung on) the corporate ladder.&nbsp; This becomes particularly prevalent in times of mergers and acquisitions, and downsizing or changes in leadership.&nbsp; If you have ever been involved in a layoff, you know that this can arouse feelings of betrayal.</P>
<P dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">But there are other subtler&nbsp;and equally painful forms of betrayal that can show up at work.<BR>&nbsp; <BR><EM>Betrayal is when someone you trust lies to you, breaks confidences, gossips about you, doesn’t keep their commitments, or hurts you in any way by putting their own self-interest first.</EM>&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; </P>
<P>I think the thing that gets us most with betrayals is that unlike losses associated with death or illness, betrayals are the result of someone’s intentional choice and are often something that didn’t have to occur.&nbsp; If we believe the choice was wrong and preventable, it leaves us asking “Why would they do this to me?”&nbsp; We start to question ourselves, our ability to accurately judge character in others, and what we did to deserve it.</P>
<P><STRONG>A betrayal is a form of loss</STRONG><BR>Just because the loss of trust in a relationship is intangible, it doesn’t mean&nbsp;the loss&nbsp;is any less intense.&nbsp; So the first step in dealing with a betrayal is to recognize that to move through it will require you to move through the same <A href="http://changingminds.org/disciplines/change_management/kubler_ross/kubler_ross.htm" target=_blank>stages of grief</A>&nbsp;you go through when dealing with any other loss:&nbsp; denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and acceptance.</P>
<P>If you are dealing with recovering from a betrayal, it’s important to note that you can’t reach the final stage of acceptance without going through all of the prior stages.&nbsp; Which means you aren't doing yourself any favors if you try to&nbsp;"do the right thing" and just forgive and forget, or if you get stuck in anger and adopt defensive behavior, or if you&nbsp;avoid the feelings by digging into a project or activity that will take your mind off of it.&nbsp; It’s important that you allow yourself to experience the emotions, which is the body’s natural way of allowing us to heal and move on.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG>Should you stay or should you go?</STRONG><BR>If you are dealing with a betrayal at work, you may be asking yourself if you should stay and work through it, or cut bait and move on.&nbsp; I always tell people “Trust your gut!” but answering these questions may provide you more clarity:</P>
<P>•&nbsp;Is the behavior typical in the organization or a single occurrence?<BR>•&nbsp;Did they recognize the hurt they caused and try to change their behavior?<BR>•&nbsp;Did they apologize, accept responsibility, and ask for forgiveness?<BR>•&nbsp;Was the behavior intentional?<BR>•&nbsp;Are they likely to do it again?<BR>•&nbsp;What makes this relationship worth your forgiving the betrayal?</P>
<P>The Center for Nonviolent Communication has a <A href="http://www.cnvc.org/needs.htm" target=_blank>needs inventory</A>&nbsp;which is a list of words that describe some of the foundational elements required for a healthy and productive connection between people.&nbsp; I like to use this list as a litmus test of sorts.&nbsp; Think about the relationship you are questioning, look through the list, and&nbsp;guage how you feel.&nbsp;&nbsp;If you end up with significantly more pluses&nbsp;than minuses, &nbsp;it's a pretty good sign.&nbsp; Plus, it may provide you a way to objectively remind yourself of what the other benefits come with working through the betrayal.</P>
<P><STRONG>Relationships at work are important</STRONG><BR>I once heard the advice “Be friendly, but not friends” when dealing with co-workers.&nbsp; I think that advice is absurd.&nbsp; Next to your family and inner circle of friends, your most immediate relationships are at work.&nbsp; We spend a lot of time at work, so how you feel there and the quality of your relationships there has a big impact on your quality of life.&nbsp; Plus, scientific studies show that when we feel good, we are much more effective at work.&nbsp; So the key isn’t to avoid relationships, but to form healthy and appropriate ones.&nbsp; </P>
<P>If you have experienced a betrayal at work, don’t allow yourself to retreat and disengage.&nbsp; Instead, allow yourself to grieve the loss.&nbsp; And when the sky clears, which it will, recognize that out of darkness comes light.&nbsp; <BR><BR>After all of news surrounding the baseball steroid investigations, the New England Patriots spying allegations, and Indiana's Coach Sampson's illegal recruiting tactics, I am ready for some light in the form of light-hearted fun.&nbsp;&nbsp; Suffice it to say that Spring Training is right around the corner and I will be keeping my sunglasses handy.&nbsp;<BR></P>]]></content><summary>I spent Wednesday morning glued to the television watching the McNamee &amp; Clemens hearing on Capital Hill.  It was a classic case of “he said – he said.”  Watching these former co-workers and friends adamantly defend their honor against the other’s accusations, the partisan questioning from the committee members, and the inevitable dragging in of family, friends and the institution of baseball, well… it left my stomach so knotted it felt like I had swallowed a brass porcupine.    To top it off, Thursday morning’s newspaper recaps kicked off my day with a heavy heart.  What a gloomy way to start Valentine’s Day!

Now I have been accused of “wearing my heart on my sleeve” on more than one occasion, mind you.  I attribute my sensitivities to my ability to empathize to a greater degree than most people.  It is what makes me gifted with improving organizational dynamics and teaching, and what makes me uneasy with employee investigations and office politics.

But other than mourning the state of professional baseball, what on earth would allow me to empathize in this scenario?  It’s not like I have ever been called before a congressional committee, taken steroids, or even had a personal trainer for that matter.  Replaying the hearing debacle in my head, I tried to figure out why it had such an impact on me.

I realized that the familiar sensation I was feeling in my gut was the pain associated with betrayal.   </summary></entry><entry><title>Excuse me, but your solution is crowding my bin space</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/02/08/excuse-me-but-your-shortterm-solution-is-crowding-my-bin-space.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-02-08:82115f23-3d02-4a75-8d57-12ed3932d2b8</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Strategic Planning" /><category term="Corporate Social Responsibility" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:07:24Z</updated><published>2008-02-08T10:45:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>Perusing the USA Today earlier this week, one headline in the money section caught my eye:&nbsp; “Heavy packers will have to pay.”&nbsp; Now mind you that marrying a cheesehead has reformatted by brain to interpret anything “packers” to naturally&nbsp;refer to&nbsp;the Green Bay Packers, so the headline intrigued me.&nbsp; Are the Packers on a health kick?&nbsp; <EM>Won’t slimming down hurt their defense?&nbsp; And why is this in the money section?&nbsp;</EM> Reading further I discovered that rather than referring to the weight of players, it was instead discussing United Airlines new checked bag policy.&nbsp; </P>
<P>In case you haven’t heard, United Airlines is implementing a new policy to charge passengers who aren’t their elite frequent fliers, and who buy their non-refundable tickets, a $25 fee to check a second bag.&nbsp; In reading the article, my mind began sputtering with annoyed rebuttals around the logic the airline used in making this decision.&nbsp; I could spell them out here, but comments and blogs of every variety have pretty much covered all my points and then some others I wouldn’t have come up with on my own.&nbsp; If you want to check them out for yourself take a look at these two articles from USA Today online:</P>
<BLOCKQUOTE dir=ltr style="MARGIN-RIGHT: 0px">
<P><A href="http://www.usatoday.com/travel/flights/2008-02-04-united-bag_N.htm#uslPageReturn" target=_blank>Fliers will have to pay to check a second bag</A><BR><BR><A href="http://www.usatoday.com/travel/flights/2008-02-06-united-fee-reaction_N.htm" target=_blank>New United bag-check fee ruffles travelers' feathers</A></P></BLOCKQUOTE>
<P>Allowing&nbsp;my reaction fester for a few days, as I have a tendency to do, I think I finally got to the root cause of why this new policy has so many people up in arms.<BR><BR><STRONG>Consumers&nbsp;have reached the point with corporate America where we have a short fuse for short-term solutions.</STRONG></P>
<P><STRONG><EM>What is the real issue?<BR></EM></STRONG>United Airlines is couching this new policy as a way to recoup some of the expenses related to the increase in oil prices.&nbsp; So for them, the issue is the fluctuation of oil prices.&nbsp; Ok.&nbsp; We are aware of that issue; we are all dealing with that to a certain degree in our own budgets.&nbsp; But isn’t the real issue the airline’s dependency on oil?&nbsp; </P>
<P>Wouldn’t it be nice if for once a company, rather than issuing a reactive policy to offset their woes, introduced their short-tem solution in conjunction with a long-term strategy?&nbsp; Just so you know, United Airlines holding company (UAL Corp) announced their highest annual pre-tax income since 1999 just 2 days prior to announcing the new fee.&nbsp; How about investing some of that income in the future?&nbsp; </P>
<P>For me, if United had announced the new policy and at the same time announced an initiative to work with GM or Boeing or even Richard Branson to explore alternative fuel engines, or engines with improved efficiencies, or something that would indicate an attempt to address the root issue, well… then perhaps I could have accepted the $25 fee in the same spirit I would take medicine with a spoon of honey.&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG>Sound financial practices are form of corporate responsibility</STRONG><BR>I was taken by surprise last year when I got my water bill and there was a new $55 monthly fee to recover expenses associated with building an EPA mandated arsenic removal facility.&nbsp; Now I don’t mind paying to support building the structure for arsenic to be removed from my water, but there was no indication how long this fee would be in place.&nbsp; So I called the company and was informed that the fee would be “forever” and that it would soon be incorporated as just a normal part of the bill.&nbsp;<EM> Forever?&nbsp; Really?&nbsp; How much did this facility cost?</EM>&nbsp; <EM>Because&nbsp;won't it&nbsp;be paid off at some point?</EM>&nbsp; At least, that’s how my construction loans have worked in that past.</P>
<P>I understand that capital expenditures can put a significant dent in operating income.&nbsp; Again, it is something we all deal with to a certain degree.&nbsp; But knowing that I need to purchase a new HVAC system next year, I put a plan in place to pay for it.&nbsp; And my plan doesn’t include charging a fee to my friends who come inside to cool off in the summer – even if my utility rates increase. In that same spirit I have no intention of sharing the profits with them when it comes time to sell the house.&nbsp; (Sorry guys!)&nbsp; Isn’t that how ownership works?</P>
<P>I take responsibility for my financial health; I make decisions that will help me be strong in the future; I don’t expect others to pick up the slack.&nbsp; And I think that is where the frustration sets in.&nbsp; When we don’t see corporate leaders making the same responsible decisions in running their companies, it’s inevitable that you are going to get that short-fused response.</P>
<P><STRONG>Reactive.&nbsp; Proacitve.&nbsp; Blah, blah, blah….</STRONG><BR>We have all been in those meetings where someone uses those million dollar buzzwords.&nbsp; There is even a <A href="http://www.corporatebingo.org/" target=_blank>corporate bingo</A>&nbsp;game you can play to keep you entertained.&nbsp; But at the end of the day, how are you evaluating the long-term quality of the decisions made in those meetings?&nbsp; Because truly proactive solutions address the root causes of organizational performance, not just the current causes.</P>
<P>In the words of Edwin Markham, “Choices are the hinges of destiny.”&nbsp; And a lot of our destinies are hinging on the choices being made in the boardrooms of corporate America.&nbsp; Perhaps when the public’s feathers are ruffled, it’s an indication that you might want to take a second look at your decisions.&nbsp; </P>
<P>In the meantime, I will be reconfiguring my suitcases so that if by some misfortune I end up on a United flight, I will be prepared to carry-on my 2 bags that I usually check. Please save me some bin space.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P>
<P>&nbsp;</P>
<P>&nbsp;</P>]]></content><summary>Perusing the USA Today earlier this week, one headline in the money section caught my eye:  “Heavy packers will have to pay.”  Now mind you that marrying a cheesehead has reformatted by brain to interpret anything “packers” to naturally refer to the Green Bay Packers, so the headline intrigued me.  Are the Packers on a health kick?  Won’t slimming down hurt their defense?  And why is this in the money section?  Reading further I discovered that rather than referring to the weight of players, it was instead discussing United Airlines new checked bag policy.  Allowing my reaction fester for a few days, as I have a tendency to do, I think I finally got to the root cause of why this new policy has so many people up in arms.

Consumers have reached the point with corporate America where we have a short fuse for short-term solutions.</summary></entry><entry><title>Are we there yet?</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/01/31/are-we-there-yet.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-01-31:125fa8c2-a3a6-4d73-97c8-3ae60f175a4b</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="employee engagement" /><category term="Professional Development" /><category term="Strategic Planning" /><category term="Executive development" /><category term="Management" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:08:19Z</updated><published>2008-01-31T15:39:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>The Super Bowl and the FBR Open are upon us and my town is overrun with celebrities -- musicians and actors as well as the expected athletes.&nbsp; Not that that is a bad thing.&nbsp; I am enjoying the commotion and the buzz that these events generate and it has been quite interesting to watch the preparations.&nbsp; What has proven most interesting to me, however, is the reminder that in these days of instant gratification, great gratification can also come from good old-fashioned anticipation.</P>
<P>For the past few weeks, a variety of tents and stages and bleachers have been going up around Old Town Scottsdale.&nbsp; Yesterday, while I was doing some research at the library, I watched stage hands construct the outdoor venue at the Civic Center Mall that will be the site for ESPN Magazine’s 2-day Super Bowl bash.&nbsp; I counted no less than 100 different people happily hammering platforms, setting up equipment, and checking configurations --working to transform the park into a playground of a different nature.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Even in my tai-chi class today people were all a-twitter about hanging with the hipsters at the various fundraisers.&nbsp; It is fun to participate in such an endeavor – even as an observer.&nbsp; </P>
<P>So knowing there is something to be said for the excitement that anticipation can generate, how is it that we manage to suck the fun out of planning and execution when it comes to our corporate lives?</P>
<P>I think we as leaders could learn a thing or two from these events and perhaps in the process solve some of those pesky HR issues we’ve manufactured, like employee engagement, commitment and productivity.</P>
<P>Anticipation is a form of hope, after all.&nbsp; And who couldn’t use a little more hope?&nbsp; </P>
<P><STRONG>What are your headlines?</STRONG><BR>All too often in my career I have been brought in at the tail end of a project and asked to generate some enthusiasm and buy-in from the employees to support the project’s execution– like it’s a simple flip of a switch. </P>
<P>Building anticipation requires getting people interested, which means giving them something authentic they can connect to and care about– a story.&nbsp; For example, to get to this year’s Super Bowl, each team had to win some games.&nbsp; The Giants finished their regular season 10-6.&nbsp; The Patriots were undefeated with 16-0.&nbsp; <EM>Are you bored yet?&nbsp; </EM>I could quote you some more statistics if you’d like.&nbsp; Would it help if you knew what brand of shoes they were wearing?</P>
<P>The point is the numbers or facts don’t come alive until you put the human story with it that conjures up some emotion.&nbsp; Here are some examples from today’s headlines:&nbsp; “Brady’s ankle not mentioned on injury report.” “Can the Giants upset (the Patriots’) perfect season?” “Moss matchup welcomed.”&nbsp; “Who wants it more?”&nbsp;&nbsp; Even news from the FBR Open details Phil Mickelson’s recovery from a respiratory illness, and that he is expecting to have a good week.&nbsp; Who can’t relate to a pesky respiratory infection?&nbsp; "Way to kick its ass Phil!"&nbsp; Now I’m watching to see how he does.</P>
<P>We care about the outcome and participating when we care about the players and the story.&nbsp; Project plans and timelines and statistics are great, but they should never stand alone.&nbsp; People want to be connected to meaningful work.&nbsp; That meaning doesn’t come from one-dimensional numbers, but the real human story that surrounds those numbers.&nbsp; So what’s your story?<BR>&nbsp;<BR><STRONG>Broadcast progress <BR></STRONG>We all know that sometimes the best plans can hit a snag that causes things to go awry.&nbsp; Still, even if we all executed our plans perfectly 100% of the time we wouldn’t necessarily get the outcome we were striving for.&nbsp; So you go back to the drawing board and try again.&nbsp; That’s what keeps it interesting.&nbsp; Why would you want to keep those details inside the walls of your boardroom?</P>
<P>To humanize an event and build anticipation, there needs to be some uncertainty of the outcome.&nbsp; Will it work?&nbsp; How will it play out?&nbsp; Who will be there? What will the response be?</P>
<P>Imagine if at the beginning of the NFL’s (ever-lengthening) season, you were merely told “We have 32 teams that are going to be playing 16 games and we’ll let you know how it goes.”&nbsp; What if the updates you got looked like this:&nbsp; “7 teams in the AFC have a .500 or better win percentage.”&nbsp; Or “This week 5 quarterbacks were sacked for a total of 12 sacks and a 14-yard average loss.”&nbsp; “6 teams lost and 6 won.”&nbsp; How long would you keep tuning in?</P>
<P>Talk to your employees about the wins and losses and challenges.&nbsp; Talk about the events, and also the emotions and impacts surrounding the events.&nbsp; Instead of trying to avoid conflict, use it to drive your story.&nbsp; Noone expects leaders to be perfect.&nbsp; (Bill Clinton helped us let go of that unrealistic expectation.)&nbsp; Show how you are overcoming obstacles and before you know it, your employees will find their own way to participate in helping the organization win.&nbsp; (AKA:&nbsp; employee engagement!)</P>
<P><STRONG>Celebrate wins along the way<BR></STRONG>From ideation to execution can be a long road to hoe.&nbsp; We don’t all have a press corps waiting outside our executive boardrooms, but that doesn’t mean that people aren’t interested in understanding the challenges and how they were overcome.&nbsp; People are very interested in knowing about leadership’s changes in thoughts or plans, and typically are secretly dying to be asked to participate in helping you celebrate the small wins along the way.</P>
<P>You don’t have to go to an extreme comparable to having a locker room web-cam, where every move is watched, reported, and analyzed; but taking a moment to pat some people on the back for a job well done in moving you closer to your goals certainly does help everyone involved enjoy the ride that much better. </P>
<P>When you think about the time and money, and people and energy that goes in to creating a successful event it can be mind-boggling.&nbsp; It’s a lot of moving pieces and parts to coordinate.&nbsp; But as we all know from going through the process to a lesser degree at some point ourselves -- whether it be preparing for a party, a holiday, a wedding, or a celebration of a different sort, half the fun is in the anticipation and the payoff of having help actively participate in the planning can be huge.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Enjoy the ride.&nbsp; In the meantime, I am heading out to see if I can find Taylor Kitsch (Tim Riggins from “Friday Night Lights”) hanging around shirtless somewhere.&nbsp; Yes, anticipation is a beautiful thing.<BR></P>]]></content><summary>The Super Bowl and the FBR Open are upon us and my town is overrun with celebrities -- musicians and actors as well as the expected athletes.  Not that that is a bad thing.  I am enjoying the commotion and the buzz that these events generate and it has been quite interesting to watch the preparations.  What has proven most interesting to me, however, is the reminder that in these days of instant gratification, great gratification can also come from good old-fashioned anticipation.

So knowing there is something to be said for the excitement that anticipation can generate, how is it that we manage to suck the fun out of planning and execution when it comes to our corporate lives?

I think we as leaders could learn a thing or two from these events and perhaps in the process solve some of those pesky HR issues we’ve manufactured, like employee engagement, commitment and productivity.

Anticipation is a form of hope, after all.  And who couldn’t use a little more hope?  

</summary></entry><entry><title>I Saw the Sign</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2008/01/23/i-saw-the-sign.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2008-01-23:370552e7-23ac-4214-8412-84a3b9596fdd</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Motivational" /><category term="Quality Of Life" /><category term="Success Strategies" /><category term="Personal Development" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:08:40Z</updated><published>2008-01-23T16:28:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P><BR>Driving home from work late one evening a few weeks back, a bright light on the side of <A href="http://phoenix.gov/SCANPIC/camelback.jpg" target=_blank>Camelback Mountain</A>&nbsp;caught my eye.&nbsp; Looking more directly, I saw the light was emanating from a “HAPPY NEW YEAR” declaration spelled out in white lights on what must have been 40 foot high letters.&nbsp; Alright, so I probably don’t have the exact right dimensions, but the point is they were big.&nbsp; I am certain big enough to be seen from an airplane landing at Sky Harbor.&nbsp; And in all capital letters – like when someone wants to indicate shouting in an email.</P>
<P>It gave me a sense that the lords of the mountain were casting a decree to the mere mortals in the valley below.&nbsp; “You will have a HAPPY year” is how it read to me.&nbsp; Which made me think, what if everyone who saw the sign did take it as an order?&nbsp; What if we all made the conscious decision to just be happy?&nbsp; How different would life be if in every situation I responded like a happy person would?&nbsp; I decided to experiment with that.&nbsp; For 21 days, with the sign in mind, I attempted to foster my new happiness habit.&nbsp; Here is what I found.</P>
<P><STRONG>Everyone likes a good challenge.&nbsp; </STRONG><BR>For starters, I once again realized that the minute you make a declaration like “I am going to be happy, no matter what!” all the forces in the universe will rise up to challenge your declaration.&nbsp; </P>
<P>The first week of my experiment was full of nothing but naysayers, complainers, people who wanted to argue and people who were just plain rude.&nbsp; It was like riding on a standing-room only transit bus packed with Yankees fans whose team just lost (again) and news media on their way to a Britney meltdown.&nbsp; UGLY.&nbsp; Obviously, I thought, these people didn’t see the sign.</P>
<P>Not one to give up so easily, I reflected with each interaction “What would a happy person do?” and smiled my way through the week.&nbsp; I have to confess though, initially, my “happy person” response to the mood challengers was more smug than sincere.&nbsp; Like, “Ha ha!&nbsp; You didn’t suck me into your grouchiness, so I win!”&nbsp; But the minute I realized that a sense of superiority (my mood is better than yours) is not really indicative of true happiness, I changed my tune.&nbsp; </P>
<P>It took a dedicated effort to keep my mind on my goals and wins and blessings for the day, and let the other stuff just roll off.&nbsp; It was worth it.&nbsp; Once you find your authentic happiness, it creates a nice protective shield against anyone else’s bad mood.&nbsp; The key really is in where you place your focus.</P>
<P><STRONG>Misery loves company.&nbsp;</STRONG> <BR>Week two I began to notice how our attention is continually directed to things that could make us unhappy.&nbsp; Pick up a newspaper, turn on the television, or listen in on your company’s quarterly financial update (unless you work for Apple)… Given that there are only 24 hours in a day and that during that time we have a limited amount of attention we can devote to any one topic, I am amazed at how much of that time we are willing to allocate to things that get us riled up-- and most of those being things we can do absolutely nothing about.&nbsp; (<EM>Side note for my regular readers:&nbsp; Remember my post about my LSU Tigers?&nbsp; They did win that <A href="http://www.lsusports.net/ViewArticle.dbml?DB_OEM_ID=5200&amp;ATCLID=1364725" target=_blank>national championship</A>&nbsp;after all</EM>!)&nbsp; </P>
<P>It takes concentrated effort to not be swayed because let’s face it, drama can be so much more entertaining.&nbsp; It’s&nbsp;far more interesting to create a conspiracy theory around why the department head happened to leave early the very same day the VP got a pink slip.&nbsp; But have we really allowed ourselves to get to the point where we expect our lives to unfold like a&nbsp;<A href="http://www.imdb.com/find?s=all&amp;q=david+e+kelley" target=_blank>David E. Kelly</A>&nbsp;script? </P>
<P>It’s time to give up our “dramaddiction” and leave the creative writing to the experts and the scenes to the screen.&nbsp; Our lives will be much happier when we don’t feel every day needs to be Reality TV worthy to be worthy of living.</P>
<P><STRONG>Hey babe, what’s your sign?&nbsp;</STRONG> <BR>By week three I fully recognized that in every interaction in every relationship or situation, we have a choice in how we respond.&nbsp; “What would a happy person do?”&nbsp; It’s a split-second decision, and whatever direction you take it is how it will play out.&nbsp; It really is your call.</P>
<P>Yes, it would be nice if everyone had a sign indicating their mood or disposition for that day or moment – you know, like the ones we use on web-based meetings, or the smile icons on instant messenger.&nbsp; It would be much easier to know who we could comfortably engage with to avoid any negativity.&nbsp; It would be much easier to be able to wear a sign that essentially said “Don’t bother me, I’m happy.”</P>
<P>What I am finding though, is that the more I play things out the way I imagine a happy person would, the more happy people and situations I seem to come across.</P>
<P><STRONG>We do have a choice.<BR></STRONG>It takes a concerted effort to change – like any good physics equation it takes more energy to stop a moving object and then get it going in an opposite direction than to just maintain momentum moving in the existing direction.&nbsp; Or something like that.&nbsp; I’m obviously not a physicist, but you get the drift.&nbsp; It takes some work, but it’s a worthwhile investment.</P>
<P>It's such a worthwhile investment that I’m extending the experiment beyond the 21 days to the full 365.&nbsp; Want to join me?</P>
<P>Step one&nbsp;is just a&nbsp;simple choice to shift your focus to being aware of the things that make you happy.<BR>I could give you a list of the things that make me happy: watching my cats play; discovering a tasty bottle of wine for $8 or less; a new episode of “Gossip Girl, even writing this blog.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp; But I don’t want to take the fun out of your experiment.&nbsp; Because the more we know about what makes us happy, the more we can avoid the things that don’t.</P>
<P>For inspiration, I’m including a video.&nbsp; For those of you whose IT Departments have (innacurately) determined that YouTube doesn’t enhance productivity and blocked your access, I’ve included the lyrics.&nbsp; It’s not completely relevant, but who couldn’t use a little more pop (note: not drama) in their day?</P>
<P>Have a HAPPY year.&nbsp; I certainly plan to!</P>
<P>“The Sign” by Ace of Base<BR>I saw the sign and it opened up my eyes <BR>I saw the sign<BR>No one's gonna drag you up to get into the light where you belong...<BR>But where do you belong?<BR><BR></P>
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<P><BR></P>]]></content><summary>Driving home from work late one evening a few weeks back, a bright light on the side of Camelback Mountain caught my eye.  Looking more directly, I saw the light was emanating from a “HAPPY NEW YEAR” declaration spelled out in white lights on what must have been 40 foot high letters.  Alright, so I probably don’t have the exact right dimensions, but the point is they were big.  I am certain big enough to be seen from an airplane landing at Sky Harbor.  And in all capital letters – like when someone wants to indicate shouting in an email.

It gave me a sense that the lords of the mountain were casting a decree to the mere mortals in the valley below.  “You will have a HAPPY year” is how it read to me.  Which made me think, what if everyone who saw the sign did take it as an order?  What if we all made the conscious decision to just be happy?  How different would life be if in every situation I responded like a happy person would?  I decided to experiment with that.  For 21 days, with the sign in mind, I attempted to foster my new happiness habit.  Here is what I found.

</summary></entry><entry><title>If only we could party like it’s 1999</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2007/12/13/if-only-we-could-party-like-its-1999.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2007-12-13:f6cd2fd0-9cdc-4457-ac51-279eb3f9362b</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="corporate culture" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:09:03Z</updated><published>2007-12-13T11:46:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<P>My husband’s company had their holiday party last night.&nbsp; It was after work, at a martini bar, and no&nbsp;spouses (or guests) were invited.&nbsp; The Human Resource side of me thought that was a recipe for disaster, but the Human side of me was a little bummed out.&nbsp; I always love having a good excuse to get dressed up and go out for martinis, and I would have enjoyed meeting some more of his coworkers.&nbsp; Seeing&nbsp;my significant other through the eyes of people who interact with him in a work capacity can be both entertaining and heartwarming.&nbsp; And having the&nbsp;real face to go with the story about the 200 pound tattooed lady who saved the day when she cornered the coyote in the lobby would be priceless.</P>
<P>So I did what any rational person would do, and went to the blogosphere to find others to commiserate with.&nbsp; It’s the one place where no matter how bad you think you have it, you can easily find 10,000 people who have it worse.</P>
<P><EM><STRONG>What I found is that a lot of people have their tinsel in a tangle over the office holiday party scene.</STRONG></EM></P>
<P>Outside of the standard rules for office party etiquette, Google produced close to 4 million recent posts related to office holiday parties (note:&nbsp; I didn’t read them all) with employee complaints ranging from not liking the people they work with, wishing they could just have the money instead, and being offended by any of a million different things that already happened at this year’s party.&nbsp; It makes me wonder:&nbsp; Are these the same people who, as kids, were the first to find out there was no such thing as Santa and proceed to spoil it for the rest of us?</P>
<P><STRONG>Has it really come to this?</STRONG><BR>Dram shop laws, sexual harassment cases, and cultural sensitivity efforts have left us about as upbeat for the holidays as the winner of the macramé toilet tissue cover at last year’s white elephant gift exchange.<BR><BR>In the Wall Street Journal On-Line, Wendy Bounds asks <A href="http://blogs.wsj.com/independentstreet/2007/11/26/should-we-abolish-the-holiday-office-party/" target=_blank>“Should We Abolish the Office Holiday Party?”</A>&nbsp; Some of the responses she gets might remind you why you would choose to party solo.&nbsp; </P>
<P>Charles McConnell says <A href="http://www.nfib.com/object/IO_35420.html" target=_blank>Goodbye to the Old-Fashioned Holiday Office Party</A>&nbsp;concluding “the old-fashioned holiday party is too risky to undertake.”<BR><BR>If you aren’t convinced yet, check out MSNBC contributor Eve Tahmincioglu’s post<BR>“<A href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/22025995/" target=_blank>Holiday parties hold peril for unwary workers.”</A>&nbsp; The office worker behavior she mentions makes me nostalgic for my freshman year fraternity-sorority exchanges.&nbsp; <BR></P>
<P>The optimist in me refuses to believe that the opinions in these&nbsp;articles are representative of the whole.&nbsp; Please tell me:&nbsp; is this just&nbsp; example of extreme journalists building a negative spin for a story?&nbsp; Or have office parties really become such a minefield of potential missteps that I should make sure&nbsp;to have my attorney present at the next one I attend?<BR><BR><STRONG>If you decide to go to your office party<BR></STRONG>Check out Slacker Manager’s <A href="http://www.slackermanager.com/2007/12/office-holiday-party-survival-tips.html" target=_blank>Office Holiday Survival Tips</A>– particularly item #3.&nbsp; <BR><BR><STRONG>If you decide not to go to your office party<BR></STRONG>Make sure you send your regrets.&nbsp; This Holiday Party <A href="http://holiday.enlighten.com/" target=_blank>excuse generator</A>&nbsp;will&nbsp;come up with the appropriate excuse for your circumstances, and will even write the note for you!<BR><BR>Whatever you decide,&nbsp;be safe and be happy.&nbsp; And I look forward to your stories.</P>
<P>Cheers!</P>]]></content><summary>My husband’s company had their holiday party last night.  It was after work, at a martini bar, and no spouses (or guests) were invited.  The Human Resource side of me thought that was a recipe for disaster, but the Human side of me was a little bummed out.  I always love having a good excuse to get dressed up and go out for martinis, and I would have enjoyed meeting some more of his coworkers.  Seeing my significant other through the eyes of people who interact with him in a work capacity can be entertaining and heartwarming.  And having the real face to go with the story about the 200 pound tattooed lady who saved the day when she cornered the coyote in the lobby would be priceless.

So I did what any rational person would do, and went to the blogosphere to find others to commiserate with.  It’s the one place where no matter how bad you think you have it, you can easily find 10,000 people who have it worse.

What I found is that a lot of people have their tinsel in a tangle over the office holiday party scene.

</summary></entry><entry><title>The Right Mix for Employee Engagement</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2007/12/06/the-right-mix-for-employee-engagement.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2007-12-06:90bca0e8-c1b9-4eb8-84ba-fc3bfe218cda</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="TEAMS" /><category term="employee engagement" /><category term="Professional Development" /><category term="HR Strategy" /><category term="Employee motivation" /><category term="Management" /><category term="job satisfaction" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:09:46Z</updated><published>2007-12-06T10:32:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV>You would think that running a business with only one full-time employee I wouldn’t have to worry much about pesky human resource issues like employee engagement.&nbsp; But as the halls of corporate America recently began emptying for the holiday season, and with my calendar looking correspondingly vacant, I found myself roaming my own halls bored and uninspired.&nbsp;&nbsp; Recognizing that I rate high “Extraversion” on the <A href="http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/extraversion-or-introversion.asp" target=_blank>Meyers-Briggs</A>&nbsp;scale, I knew I had to find some additional human interaction to fill my time or risk becoming the crazy cat lady that everyone in the neighborhood talks about.</DIV>
<DIV><BR>So I took on a part-time job as a seasonal worker at a kitchen retailer nearby.&nbsp;<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Stirring up a batch of cupcake batter for a cooking demonstration this past week, I felt a familiar warm glow taking over my body and realized – I was running on all cylinders and fully engaged in my new job.&nbsp; How could something so simple be providing me so much juice?&nbsp; Was the answer in the cupcake mix?&nbsp; I explored further.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Pulling out my handy performance consulting model (typically reserved for diagnosing underperforming operations) I began mentally dissecting my happy little retail operation to figure out the root cause for success.&nbsp; Why was I so engaged in this seemingly mundane role, performing seemingly mundane tasks?<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>What I found is that the answer really is in the mix.&nbsp; With the right combination of a few key ingredients, here is a simple recipe for success we can all learn from.&nbsp; (Ok, no more cooking analogies…)<BR></DIV>
<DIV><FONT size=3><STRONG><BR>The Right Mix of Training</STRONG><BR></FONT><BR>A term you hear a lot these days in training circles is “Just-in-time training.”&nbsp; The idea behind this is that most people forget what they learn in the classroom unless they can immediately apply it, so it is better to give learners access to just what they need, just in time to apply it.&nbsp; Asynchronous e-learning has made this possible.&nbsp; Run into a problem?&nbsp; Click on this button and take a short class and you will have your answer.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Now I don’t know about you, but if I am standing at the cash register trying to figure out how to handle your muffin tin return, I would like to be able to do that without having to get my training “just-in-time.”<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>And therein is the first key.&nbsp; I would like to propose a new term:&nbsp; Just-enough-training.&nbsp; To be fully engaged in my job I need to:<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>•&nbsp;Not have the life sucked out of me by sitting through hours of videos and classes <BR>•&nbsp;Be confident that I can do the job without looking like a bumbling idiot<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>In my new role, I need just enough training ahead of time to perform the basic functions of my job successfully, understand my role and how it fits into to the company’s goals, and know where to go if I need additional answers.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Assume that most people take on a new role fully engaged and wanting to succeed, and then help them get the right mix of what they need to maintain their confidence and enthusiasm.&nbsp; <BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><FONT size=3><BR>The Right Mix of Employees<BR></FONT></STRONG></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Build the right team.&nbsp;</STRONG> Let me start by saying this has absolutely nothing to do with team building.&nbsp; So save your money – you don’t need to send your employees into the wilderness to make this work.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>This does have everything to do with having the right mix of employees to effectively handle the work load.&nbsp; It’s about making sure that your employees are challenged but not overwhelmed or bored, so that ultimately your customers are cared for.&nbsp; If you get this piece right, you won’t have to worry about micro-managing your labor expenses or defusing petty squabbles.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Hire the right employees</STRONG>.&nbsp; Sometimes I wonder why we even bother with job descriptions.&nbsp; A little variation here, a little deviation there and pretty soon it’s so modified it bares little resemblance to the original.&nbsp; (Think Kenny Rogers and Joan Rivers)&nbsp; And then people wonder why things aren’t running like clockwork.&nbsp; “It must be that new generation of workers that can’t get it right!”&nbsp; Please.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>To get the right employees you have to know what you are looking for, and then follow that consistently.&nbsp; I got the nod of approval from every manager on staff before being hired at a job where I only work 8-12 hours per week.&nbsp; As I meet my new co-workers I am continually impressed with how interesting, friendly and helpful they are.&nbsp; Could it be that they see me that way too?&nbsp; It actually makes me proud to have been chosen to be a part of the team, and that increases my commitment to doing a good job everyday.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Utilize employees in the right places.</STRONG> Trust me, there are few things more frustrating than being hired for your skills and expertise, and then not getting the chance to put them to use.&nbsp; To a certain degree, we are missing the boat in employee engagement when we use competency assessments to build “Jacks of all Trades” rather than “Masters of One.”&nbsp; The Gallup Organization figured this out in&nbsp;their work with “<A href="http://www.gallup.com/consulting/61/Strengths-Development.aspx" target=_blank>Strengths Finders.”</A><BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Sure, I could brush up on my knife skills and talk to you about paring, but put me in the baking section and I can enthusiastically sell you all day on the delicious uses of our apple pie filling and the variety of spiked toddies you can make with our mulling spices.&nbsp; It’s effortless and natural.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>At the end of the day, you just get better results and happier employees if rather than pointing out all their deficiencies, you leverage and challenge and grow their strengths.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Focus employees on the right things.&nbsp;</STRONG> Are you ready to kick it up a notch?&nbsp; <BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>•&nbsp;Make sure everyone has a clearly defined role (that everyone else also knows is their role)<BR>•&nbsp;Set your expectations for each role (that everyone else also knows are the expectations for that role)<BR>•&nbsp;Direct your employees’ strengths towards reaching a shared and common goal <BR>•&nbsp;Show your employees how to work within their role to accomplish that goal<BR>•&nbsp;Follow up to make sure things are working out as planned<BR>•&nbsp;Provide support as needed<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>As much as we talk about employees being human capital, it’s important to remember the “human” component.&nbsp; Assume that people want to contribute and be successful in their roles, and then give them what they need to get there.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><FONT size=3><BR>The Right Mix of Management</FONT></STRONG><BR><BR>When I worked in the banking industry, it was easy to identify the branch manger – they were always the ones with the biggest ring of keys clipped to their belt loops, weighing them down.&nbsp; And in most traditional hierarchical structures, it seems that once you make the leap to management, there is something that changes and bogs you down.&nbsp; People get promoted because they are good at what they do, but then they don’t get to do it anymore.&nbsp;&nbsp;<BR><BR>B.F. Skinner&nbsp;would call that <A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reinforcement" target=_blank>positive punishment</A>.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>That punishment trickles down to employees when these busy managers, feeling like they need to validate their managerial role by contributing some value every so often, pop in randomly and question a process, change a plan already in place, or provide a recommendation on an issue that was addressed 3 meetings earlier.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>If you want your management team to contribute to employee engagement, you have to free up their schedule so they can dedicate a portion of their time to manage by example, which means:<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>•&nbsp;Actively participating in or doing the job they are asking their employees to do<BR>•&nbsp;Modeling the desired behaviors or acknowledging good performance<BR>•&nbsp;Providing informal on-the-job training and development through coaching and feedback<BR>•&nbsp;Being easily accessible to employees for questions or just conversation<BR>•&nbsp;Recognizing accomplishments and contributions<BR>•&nbsp;Showing appreciation at the end of the day<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>If you are finding that your bench strength is lacking and your engagement scores are low, start here.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><FONT size=3><BR>The Right Mix of Ownership</FONT></STRONG><BR><BR>As I was finishing up a transaction with a CEO-type gentleman the other day he said to me “Corporate loves employees like you!”&nbsp; I know he meant it as a compliment; however, I hope that my facial expression didn’t give away what my mind was thinking – which was a stream-of-consciousness mish-mash ranging from “What the *!%…?” to “Why, thank you!”&nbsp; <BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>It struck me as a bizarre statement because for one, I have always been “corporate” and so I understood what he meant, and I appreciated his intent.&nbsp; But the side of me that was just enjoying a fun day at work, just doing my job, was a little offended.&nbsp; I wasn’t helping him pick out the right salt grinder because corporate told me to.&nbsp; I did it because it was my role, in that moment, as part of that team, for my leadership in that store on that day.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Hidden in there somewhere is the secret to authentic ownership.&nbsp; No one from corporate asked me to participate on a task force to determine the proper policy for selling salt grinders so I would buy-in.&nbsp; Instead the “company” in the form of the local retail store welcomed me to their team.&nbsp; They made me feel at home, helped me learn how I could best contribute to the store’s goals, and thanked me for my contributions.&nbsp; <BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Now I have no doubt that “corporate” created the infrastructure and culture that has made this experience possible.&nbsp; But for ownership to take place at the grass roots level, “corporate” has to believe in its systems and processes and policies enough to let go and let it happen.&nbsp; It’s the balance between providing the support to make the right things happen, and the trust that they will.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><FONT size=3><BR>The cupcakes really are that good</FONT></STRONG><BR><BR>What it comes down to from where I stand as a front-line employee is that the right mix for employee engagement comes from seeing and believing in what a company stands for – its cultural values and norms and goals, and then being given the capability and platform to help sustain the vision and achieve the goals.&nbsp; <BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Of course, free cupcakes never hurt either.</DIV>
<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>]]></content><summary>You would think that running a business with only one full-time employee I wouldn’t have to worry much about pesky human resource issues like employee engagement.  But as the halls of corporate America recently began emptying for the holiday season, and with my calendar looking correspondingly vacant, I found myself roaming my own halls bored and uninspired.   Recognizing that I rate high “Extraversion” on the Meyers-Briggs scale, I knew I had to find some additional human interaction to fill my time or risk becoming the crazy cat lady that everyone in the neighborhood talks about.

So I took on a part-time job as a seasonal worker at a kitchen retailer nearby. 


Stirring up a batch of cupcake batter for a cooking demonstration this past week, I felt a familiar warm glow taking over my body and realized – I was running on all cylinders and fully engaged in my new job.  How could something so simple be providing me so much juice?  Was the answer in the cupcake mix?  I explored further.
</summary></entry><entry><title>Is it time to remodel your corporate culture?</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2007/11/09/is-it-time-to-remodel-your-corporate-culture.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2007-11-09:fd46bec3-d71e-48da-a92d-f52d57b979ec</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="corporate culture" /><category term="Professional Development" /><category term="HR Strategy" /><category term="Organizational Development" /><category term="Management" /><category term="Executive development" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:10:09Z</updated><published>2007-11-09T08:26:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<DIV>&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV>I do interior design consulting as a hobby.&nbsp; Outside of the obvious that it’s always fun to shop with other people’s money, it is creatively invigorating to play with colors and spaces, and emotionally fulfilling to help people craft a home that provides a respite from their busy lives and restores their spirits.&nbsp;<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Recently, I got a call from a kind-hearted 60-something year-old single pastor looking for some inspiration.&nbsp; Walking around his home I was struck by how accurately our homes can reflect our selves.&nbsp; It was bright and cheery and grounding all at the same time.&nbsp; Pointing at a single purple-painted wall I asked “What feeling are you going for?”&nbsp; “I want to have a home that is comfortable and inviting to ladies” he replied.&nbsp; The pastor it turns out is looking for his soul mate and wants to make sure that his home is conducive to snagging her when she shows up.<BR>&nbsp; </DIV>
<DIV>While his may be an unorthodox approach to courtship, the pastor recognizes something that the rest of us could learn from:&nbsp; when you do the work to create the right environment you will attract the right people.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Wait, that sounds vaguely similar to one of my OD consulting lines.&nbsp;<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Pausing to look at my two seemingly divergent career paths I was struck by the parallels.&nbsp; <EM>What other interior design principles can I apply to organizational design?&nbsp; <BR></EM></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><FONT size=3><BR>Design Tips for Corporate Cultures<BR></FONT></STRONG></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Determine your style<BR></STRONG>Are you trendy, eclectic, classic, country, shabby chic?&nbsp; There is no wrong answer as long as you are clear on your style and comfortable in it.&nbsp; It’s the only way you’re going to know if that piece of art you’ve been admiring is going to fit in or require a complete remodel.&nbsp; It’s also the only way you can avoid a “Christmas Story” <A href="http://www.theleglamp.com/" target=_blank>Leg Lamp</A>&nbsp;debacle.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Corporate culture is how a business communicates its style.&nbsp; And just like you can get a sense of a person by spending time in their home, you can get a sense of a corporate culture by spending time in an office.&nbsp; Is it high-tech, family-friendly, innovative, or casual?&nbsp; Again, there is no wrong answer as long as you are clear on every level.&nbsp; For example, if you say you are family-friendly but promote people who work 24/7 you are introducing a Leg Lamp into your corporate culture. <BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Reading a book doesn’t make you an expert<BR></STRONG>The soul-mate seeking pastor picked up a book on <A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feng_Shui" target=_blank>Feng Shui</A>&nbsp;to tap into the ancient art as a way to attract favorable energies and instead ended up with a purple wall and a home that still felt out of harmony.<BR>&nbsp; </DIV>
<DIV>In much the same sense, handing everyone in your organization a copy of&nbsp;<A href="http://www.jimcollins.com/lib/books.html" target=_blank>“Good to Great”</A> and telling them to get on the bus isn’t going to move your organization to greatness.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>It is absolutely critical that people expose themselves to new ideas through reading. (<EM>I write, so of course I believe that!</EM>)&nbsp; But the real change doesn’t happen in the reading, it happens in the execution.&nbsp; If a book inspires an idea that requires you to rearrange the corporate furniture, bring in an OD expert to help&nbsp;orchestrate the execution.<BR><BR>You wouldn’t undergo major home renovations without consulting an architect, right?&nbsp;<BR><STRONG><BR>Faux stone won’t cover design flaws<BR></STRONG>I don’t know if this is a trend everywhere, but in my corner of the world it seems that every remodel includes a fancy new faux stone façade.&nbsp; Add travertine floors and granite countertops and you can call yourself 100% upgraded.&nbsp; The problem is, if the floor plan doesn’t work, if the location is bad or the lighting is poor all you end up with is an updated mess.&nbsp;</DIV>
<DIV><BR>My southern friends call this “Putting lipstick on a pig.”&nbsp; It’s still a pig.&nbsp;<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>You can’t fake sincerity and authenticity when it comes to corporate cultures.&nbsp; One of the most frequent reasons I hear people being dissatisfied with a job move is that the new job or the organization isn’t what was described or presented in the interview process.&nbsp; If you want good people to stick around, don’t work on the façade, fix the floor plan.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Beautiful gardens need tending<BR></STRONG>When I was in grade school in Europe I used to be in awe of the way some of the most simple homes and small spaces were transformed into magical settings with just a few well-placed paths, fountains, plants, or flower baskets.&nbsp; Those were the places you wanted to linger; they are the places you photograph to capture the feeling they produced.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>When I bought my first home I wanted to re-create that same feeling.&nbsp; That’s when I realized it wasn’t as easy as buying some shrubbery and annuals and sticking them in the ground.&nbsp; Hiring a gardener to do my dirty work didn’t take care of it either.&nbsp; I actually had to get in there myself and get my hands dirty.&nbsp; And in another one of life’s wonderful twists, in doing it myself I captured that magical feeling.&nbsp;<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>If you admire someone else’s culture, and want to capture that same feeling it will take more than a spirited new name for your support departments.&nbsp; It will take you as a leader getting in there yourself and tending to it devotedly through every season to nurture its growth and health – promptly pulling any weeds before they take over.&nbsp; It’s just not something you can delegate.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Make time to de-clutter <BR></STRONG>Any good interior designer will tell you that one of the best ways to breathe new life into a space is to remove all of the accessories and then carefully edit which ones you put back.&nbsp;<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Life has a way of quietly accumulating and before we know it we are immersed in items that require more energy to maintain than energy we derive out of their presence.<BR><BR>Corporations have a hard time letting go of clutter too – holding on to outdated processes and practices that are only clogging up the system and using good energy to support activities with little or no return.&nbsp; If productivity is lagging or you hear a lot of “But we’ve always done it this way!” in your hallways, it might be time to breathe new life into your space.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Merge households with sensitivity<BR></STRONG>A neighbor once shared with me that before he married his wife she always complimented him on his taste.&nbsp; So he was totally taken by surprise when upon return from their honeymoon she launched a complete remodel of the former bachelor home they would now occupy together.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>It happens when you merge households.&nbsp; Just like you can admire someone’s outfit, but it would be a totally different story if you had to wear it yourself.&nbsp; “Of course you can put your Green Bay Packers pennant up honey!”&nbsp; But what you don’t say is “I have the perfect spot in the garage.”&nbsp; And through sensitive gives and takes, you combine the best of both of you and you build your new definition of home together.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>It happens when you merge corporate cultures too.&nbsp; It’s unrealistic to think things won’t change.&nbsp; And it’s unrealistic to think that people can easily give up their corporate pennants.&nbsp; If you want your merger to succeed, it will take some human sensitivity.<BR></DIV>
<DIV><STRONG><BR>Good design ultimately reflects the spirit of the owners</STRONG> <BR>In an interview with <A href="http://www.phgmag.com/" target=_blank>Phoenix Home &amp; Garden</A>, designer Vincente Wolf was asked “What is it that makes a room truly fabulous?”&nbsp; He replied:&nbsp; “It has to do with the soul of the space and the spirit of the owners.&nbsp; One attracts the other.”<BR></DIV>
<DIV><BR>Thank you Vincente, I couldn’t have said it better myself.</DIV>
<DIV><BR>&nbsp;</DIV>]]></content><summary>I do interior design consulting as a hobby.  Outside of the obvious that it’s always fun to shop with other people’s money, it is creatively invigorating to play with colors and spaces, and emotionally fulfilling to help people craft a home that provides a respite from their busy lives and restores their spirits. 


Recently, I got a call from a kind-hearted 60-something year-old single pastor looking for some inspiration.  Walking around his home I was struck by how accurately our homes can reflect our selves.  It was bright and cheery and grounding all at the same time.  Pointing at a single purple-painted wall I asked “What feeling are you going for?”  “I want to have a home that is comfortable and inviting to ladies” he replied.  The pastor it turns out is looking for his soul mate and wants to make sure that his home is conducive to snagging her when she shows up.
  
While his may be an unorthodox approach to courtship, the pastor recognizes something that the rest of us could learn from:  when you do the work to create the right environment you will attract the right people.


Wait, that sounds vaguely similar to one of my OD consulting lines. 


Pausing to look at my two seemingly divergent career paths I was struck by the parallels.  What other interior design principles can I apply to organizational design?  
</summary></entry><entry><title>Quiz for Leaders:  What does "HR" Stand for in Your Organization?</title><link rel="alternate" href="http://breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com/2007/10/26/quiz-for-leaders--what-does-hr-stand-for-in-your-organization.aspx" /><id>tag:breakroom.buildingbsolutions.com,2007-10-26:0377737b-94a6-4eb8-97e9-1cdf5dd2d8c4</id><author><name>Michelle</name></author><category term="Human Resources" /><category term="Professional Development" /><category term="HR Strategy" /><category term="Executive development" /><updated>2008-03-11T16:10:31Z</updated><published>2007-10-26T10:44:00Z</published><content type="html"><![CDATA[<DIV>
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<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt">Select your best answer from one of the following options:<BR><BR>a)&nbsp;High Risk&nbsp;<BR>b) Handle Resolutions<BR>c)&nbsp;Holistic Rubbish<BR>d)&nbsp;Human Resources<BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt">I guess technically and acronym-wise, the answer could be that HR stands for all of the above.&nbsp; The ideal answer would be, of course, Human Resources – you know, the department that manages everything having to do with the humans who work for your organization.&nbsp; <BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>Unfortunately what I am seeing more of in my OD Consulting practice these days&nbsp;(yes, even with the heightened concern of getting and keeping quality employees) is that many Human Resource resources (did you follow that?) are instead being utilized and deployed as managers of human risk or human problem resolution.&nbsp; </P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>And when HR brings up performance management, leadership development, or getting a piece of the budget to support an overall talent strategy?&nbsp; Eyes glaze over and a “Holistic Rubbish!” mutter can be heard through a poorly-disguised cough. <BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>So if you answered a, b, or c, perhaps its time for your organization to implement some changes that can get you HR department back to d. <BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><STRONG>From Personnel to Human Resources </STRONG><BR>Up until roughly the mid-1980s, the group that managed employee-related activities was typically called “Personnel.”&nbsp; Born in the post-industrial revolution era, Personnel was formed to represent the rights, responsibilities and duties of employees (<A href="http://faculty.babson.edu/krollag/org_site/encyclop/bureaucracy.html" target=_blank>Weber 1947</A>) in a highly controlled environment.</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>The <A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_Relations_Movement" target=_blank>Human Relations Movement</A>&nbsp;shook things up a little bit when the Hawthorne Studies and the advice of Dale Carnegie highlighted that organizational effectiveness could be improved by attending to the social needs of employees.&nbsp;&nbsp;<A href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abraham_Maslow" target=_blank>Maslow</A> kicked that up a notch with his Need Hierarchy and topic of employee motivation.&nbsp; So now you have Personnel taking care of the administrative issues, but also looking at issues like career development and effective management and leadership.</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>At some point in the 80s, Boomers in the personnel business decided that in order to make any real headway in their careers, they needed to have “a seat at the table.”&nbsp; Their answer was a new “Human Resources” department designed to align with management.&nbsp; So instead of being the advocate for employees, HR now positioned itself as part of the leadership team and began to build systems and processes to approach employees as a corporate resource – or just one of the support tools that help the company achieve its objectives.&nbsp;&nbsp; <BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt">What you have now is an HR group still responsible for the administrative tasks, social and motivational needs, and compliance issues associated with managing employees, but also the responsibility to first protect the company’s interest and objectives.&nbsp; Employees think HR is there to support their needs, leaders look to&nbsp;HR to save them from lawsuits and the like, and what HR is really trying to do is just matter as more than an afterthought.&nbsp; <BR><BR>Is it any wonder there is confusion over their role?&nbsp; That’s a lot of hats to wear.&nbsp; It’s like one realtor representing both the buyer and the seller in a single real estate transaction.&nbsp; It’s tough to come out of that unscathed.<BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><STRONG><EM>What are you promoting?</EM><BR></STRONG>If you don’t like what your HR department stands for, the first thing to ask yourself as an organizational leader is “What are you promoting?”&nbsp; Because how success is measured dictates the type of people you will attract to your HR group and how they will spend their time.&nbsp; <BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><STRONG>Symptoms when HR = High Risk</STRONG><BR>Activities center on:<BR>•&nbsp;Policies and procedures – drafting them, revising them, enforcing them<BR>•&nbsp;Compliance – spinning management goof-ups to protect the company<BR>•&nbsp;Control – building systems and checks and balances for CYA<BR>•&nbsp;Rules and paperwork– making them complicated to ensure job security</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>Catbert, Dilbert’s evil HR director is the poster child for what this High Risk group represents.&nbsp; For example, Catbert’s <A href="http://www.dilbert.com/comics/dilbert/games/career/html/questions.html" target=_blank>Performance Review Generator</A>&nbsp;will help you write an employee’s performance review.&nbsp; With this type, it’s not really important what you say, just that you go through the motions to get it done and get it in on time.<BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><STRONG>Symptoms when HR = High Resolution<BR></STRONG>Most time is spent on:<BR>•&nbsp;Employee investigations<BR>•&nbsp;Putting out fires and the latest drama<BR>•&nbsp;Employee relations issues<BR>•&nbsp;Delivering bad news</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>When management gets HR to do their bidding – having the difficult conversations, conducting the firings, or being the face for a significant cultural change, you will end up with a High Resolution Group.&nbsp; Toby from “The Office” is one of these professionals.&nbsp; <BR><BR>If your HR group is spending too much time listening, start directing your employees to tell <A href="http://www.nbc.com/The_Office/justforfun/hr_nightmares/?vid=92727" target=_blank>Tell Toby their nightmares</A>.&nbsp; If even after you have freed up their time they continue to find drama and problems, you can be assured that over time you've&nbsp;managed to attract high resolution personalities to your team.<BR><BR></P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><STRONG>Symptoms when HR = Holistic Rubbish<BR></STRONG>Accomplishments include:<BR>•&nbsp;Soft skills training with no measurable objectives<BR>•&nbsp;Writing feel-good newsletters that feature a “recipe of the month”<BR>•&nbsp;Office tours and “Meet Your Leaders” lunches<BR>•&nbsp;Hovering outside the CEO’s office to get some face time</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>These are the groups that have not been integrated into the business.&nbsp; They are viewed as a money-sucking cost centers and a necessary evil cost of doing business.&nbsp; If you have managers who say “We would be making so much money if it weren’t for all these darn employees!” you aren’t fully utilizing your HR.</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR><STRONG>Symptoms when HR = Human Resources</STRONG><BR>Exemplified by:<BR>•&nbsp;A HR strategy that is integral o the business strategy<BR>•&nbsp;Leadership Transparency<BR>•&nbsp;High employee satisfaction and engagement<BR>•&nbsp;Strong results</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR><STRONG>A Roadmap to an Effective Transition</STRONG><BR>If technology gets us to the point where we can download data directly to our brains (like on NBC’s geek spy <A href="http://www.nbc.com/Chuck/about/about.shtml" target=_blank>Chuck</A>) I am calling “Dibs!” on being first in line for everything Josh Bersin has ever written.&nbsp;&nbsp; Odds are that if there is ever a talent management strategy you instinctively know makes sense but don’t yet have the data to support-- he has already researched and written about it.&nbsp; </P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR>If you want to change what your HR stands for, I couldn’t do it any better than what he recommends.&nbsp; I highly recommend his <A href="http://bersin.wordpress.com/" target=_blank>blog linked here</A>.&nbsp; There are quite a few posts in there that will put you well on your way to a strategy that will help you today and provide the right support for the next generation of HR.</P>
<P class=MsoNormal style="MARGIN: 0in 0in 0pt"><BR><STRONG>The Bottom Line<BR></STRONG>As a leader of your organization, are utilizing your HR group to engage your human resources, or to control your human resources?&nbsp; Because in the “shadow of the leader” what HR stands for is a reflection of how leadership views its people.<BR><BR></P>
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